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cozywithsam's review against another edition
4.0
A good and quick pep talk to quit being such a people pleaser
seclement's review against another edition
3.0
This book is really for pathological people pleasers, so your mileage may vary. I really, really struggle to say no in my professional life, and it is a problem. But I don't do it to please people. I scored pretty low on the people pleaser "quiz" in the book, but the author suggested the strategies would be valuable anyway. A few were, but they are ones I already implement. It is a good reminder to implement them more. For me, the best strategies in the book are to recommend someone more suited to the task (I often get these requests because someone else has done that with me....but I need to get better at saying that I can't either!); have categories of things you say no to (I have just started doing that with peer review....I am in the 97th percentile of reviewers....I am going to start saying no once I reach a certain number in a year); and asking that requesters follow up at a later time (I need to do this more often, as people often resolve a request in the meantime!). But ultimately this book isn't for people like me who just are really interested in a lot of things and enthusiastic about participating in lots of things. For people like me, a book that provides more structured ways of thinking about when to jump on an opportunity and when not to would be good. I have my methods, but they are imperfect. The book is simple and digestible, and easy to find what you are looking for when you want to go back and reference something, but ultimately there isn't enough content. There is a balance between parsimony and explanatory power. This book didn't get that right; at least not for me. Maybe if people pleasing is your problem, this will be for you.
elisahall's review against another edition
informative
fast-paced
3.5
Informative, with helpful strategies for saying no when you need to.
twin2's review against another edition
3.0
2.7 Stars
Many of these chapters/section are repeat. For example, Part Two: Reasons We Struggle To Ssy No, the sections titled "We Desire To Help Others" and "We Want To Appear Valuable" are essentially the same.
A lot of repetition. I suppose that is the point to drive the "lessons" home. Also, some of those scenarios and examples seem improbable.
Many of these chapters/section are repeat. For example, Part Two: Reasons We Struggle To Ssy No, the sections titled "We Desire To Help Others" and "We Want To Appear Valuable" are essentially the same.
A lot of repetition. I suppose that is the point to drive the "lessons" home. Also, some of those scenarios and examples seem improbable.
kimberlywyatt5's review against another edition
2.0
Not my favorite non-fiction self-help book. I feel it was a bit redundant and could have been boiled down to 1 chapter. I finished reading it, but didn’t really want to. It’s good information, but a bit contradictory in parts. It gives you a bunch of ways to explain yourself to others but then says you don’t have to explain yourself but you kind of should to be nice but you don’t have to worry about others feelings also.
katieemilys's review against another edition
reflective
medium-paced
2.0
Some helpful stuff at the beginning but honestly everything I learnt in this book I could’ve learnt from reading an article for two minutes. The main thing I learnt is that the author doesn’t like driving friends to the airport.
alicia_joy's review against another edition
2.0
This was a book form of "this meeting should have been an email." I found it to be very repetitive, while not saying much at all. Struggled to get through it, and only finished it because I needed a self-help book for a challenge. Otherwise, this would have quickly been a DNF for me.
lemonsmith's review against another edition
2.0
I got the one specific answer I was looking for.
Rest of the book was meh... didn't feel much interesting as I knew, or I already follow, the said moves to say NO.
It's an OK book. Slight repetiting.
Rest of the book was meh... didn't feel much interesting as I knew, or I already follow, the said moves to say NO.
It's an OK book. Slight repetiting.