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sunshine169's review against another edition
5.0
American's don't like rape. According to this book, they don't like it so much they try their hardest to belittle it when it happens. Keyser breaks down why she believes this is so by scrutinizing rape culture in the United States. People dismiss rape because it gives them a sense of security that it won’t happen to them or anyone they know because the victim must have been at fault. Another reason is they simply refuse to see a person that they know in a bad light… I had an abuser and my family didn’t believe me because he was so nice to them that I must be making it all up. People also choose to believe that unless it is evidently clear that the rape was an extremely violent encounter then it must not be true. This is simply not always the case
Here are some statistics I found disheartening.
1 and 5 women and 1 and 71 men will be raped during their lifetime.
In 2014 Dorothy Espelage, a professor of Psychology at University of Florida Gainsville found that
- 25% of middle-school girls experience sexual harassment
- That number rose to 68% for high school
I related very much to many of the actions women take to be vigilant. We accept a baseline fear that we could be harassed or assaulted. I also love the #metoo movement because it gave women and girls the push they needed to speak up about their experiences and know they are not alone. I become very angry when people try to belittle it. Other experiences I have had in my life growing up... people have told me it is just boys being boys and if he teases or torments you it means he likes you. I have learned to be a nice girl so when I would use my passive voice my rejections were not taken seriously and often found myself in less than desired situations. Being assertive often meant bodily harm or gaining a stalker.
What this short book does that I don't often see from random conversations on the internet is it offers up solutions to the problem. The last chapter contains a lot of useful information on how to start the process of deconstructing rape culture. Not wanting to be raped is not a hate message to men. I don't know why some men feel this way. I am married to one and not once has he ever been inappropriate.
*I received this book from Netgalley in exchange for an honest review. Thank you for the opportunity.
Here are some statistics I found disheartening.
1 and 5 women and 1 and 71 men will be raped during their lifetime.
In 2014 Dorothy Espelage, a professor of Psychology at University of Florida Gainsville found that
- 25% of middle-school girls experience sexual harassment
- That number rose to 68% for high school
I related very much to many of the actions women take to be vigilant. We accept a baseline fear that we could be harassed or assaulted. I also love the #metoo movement because it gave women and girls the push they needed to speak up about their experiences and know they are not alone. I become very angry when people try to belittle it. Other experiences I have had in my life growing up... people have told me it is just boys being boys and if he teases or torments you it means he likes you. I have learned to be a nice girl so when I would use my passive voice my rejections were not taken seriously and often found myself in less than desired situations. Being assertive often meant bodily harm or gaining a stalker.
What this short book does that I don't often see from random conversations on the internet is it offers up solutions to the problem. The last chapter contains a lot of useful information on how to start the process of deconstructing rape culture. Not wanting to be raped is not a hate message to men. I don't know why some men feel this way. I am married to one and not once has he ever been inappropriate.
*I received this book from Netgalley in exchange for an honest review. Thank you for the opportunity.
hereisenough's review against another edition
4.0
Well rounded and practical book about rape culture.
I don’t know why I read this, but I do know that more people really need to read this.
I don’t know why I read this, but I do know that more people really need to read this.
deckybresnack's review
5.0
I think that this book was very informative to the problems with our culture and how girls and boys are raised. I believe that this book is meant for an audience a little bit younger than myself. I wish Keyser would’ve focused a little more on rape cases where the perpetrator was not found guilty because that is much more common than the cases she talked about where the perpetrator was found guilty. Overall, I think this book is a great introduction into becoming aware of these problems.
jordbrace's review
4.0
Read for dissertation research, focus on America and not much mention of other parts of world however i appreciate it was talking specifically about American culture
Also glad it touched on intersectionality and didn't just focus on white feminism
Also glad it touched on intersectionality and didn't just focus on white feminism
cjwicker's review
As someone who is relatively familiar with feminism, intersectionality, and social issues this book read as an overview of things I already knew. However, if you’re trying to learn for the first time or need a good resource to pass along to someone you know who is just starting to try and think about these ideas, this is excellent. Everything is well defined and laid out in a easy to follow way.
cait371's review
4.0
I saw this book in my libraries YA section on Libby, so I don’t understand the ones saying it reads young. In my opinion it’s for teens. It is a good introduction, in my opinion, for teens if they wish to explore the subject matter. It has facts, and even has a section in the end of the book for further material on the subject.