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Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make and Keep Friends as an Adult
Marisa G. Franco
4.09 AVERAGE
809 reviews for:
Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make and Keep Friends as an Adult
Marisa G. Franco
4.09 AVERAGE
informative
inspiring
medium-paced
started this book super excited, ended up reading only the “take-away” sections at the end of each chapter. the research parts ended up feeling long-winded, disjointed, and some of the quotes were multiple lines long. the sections were 40 pages of repetitiveness.
not every book has to be 300 pages. honestly, pretty disappointing.
not every book has to be 300 pages. honestly, pretty disappointing.
As a person who hasn't had many long lasting or deep friendships, I picked up this book half hoping it would teach me something about being a better friend. While Franco does give some tips for making and maintaining friendships, the more interesting parts of the book are about the psychology of friendship and how the tenets of friendship can be used in other relationships.
She discusses the benefits of friendship--how friends can fulfill people in ways that partners, parents, siblings, etc. often don't. She also details the different types of attachment (anxious, avoidant, secure) and how people with each style interact in relationships. This taught me a lot about myself as a person and made me reflect on how I show up (or don't) for the people I care about.
Franco also gets into common myths like that making friendships (especially as an adult) is an organic process.
It was helpful that Franco used case studies and real clients to demonstrate her points. It's easy to say that certain behavior affects a friendship, but having an example of exactly how that has played out in real life solidifies the point.
Most of the advice is pretty obvious. In order to make friends, you have to put yourself out there. In order to keep friends, you have to communicate. But having the background of the different attachment styles and the plethora of examples makes the message feel more robust and meaningful.
She discusses the benefits of friendship--how friends can fulfill people in ways that partners, parents, siblings, etc. often don't. She also details the different types of attachment (anxious, avoidant, secure) and how people with each style interact in relationships. This taught me a lot about myself as a person and made me reflect on how I show up (or don't) for the people I care about.
Franco also gets into common myths like that making friendships (especially as an adult) is an organic process.
It was helpful that Franco used case studies and real clients to demonstrate her points. It's easy to say that certain behavior affects a friendship, but having an example of exactly how that has played out in real life solidifies the point.
Most of the advice is pretty obvious. In order to make friends, you have to put yourself out there. In order to keep friends, you have to communicate. But having the background of the different attachment styles and the plethora of examples makes the message feel more robust and meaningful.
hopeful
informative
inspiring
reflective
fast-paced
Sounds a little goofy but “Assume people like you” kinda shifted my whole paradigm.
There’s a lot of useful info in here that I think is very essential to connecting to other people in a society that benefits from us being separated from one another both physically and emotionally.
This is one I am going to have to buy.
There’s a lot of useful info in here that I think is very essential to connecting to other people in a society that benefits from us being separated from one another both physically and emotionally.
This is one I am going to have to buy.
informative
reflective
medium-paced
emotional
hopeful
informative
inspiring
reflective
fast-paced
Despite how heavily this book references different studies and books, this was a very easy/gentle read. There's a nice balance between the observations raised, and practical suggestions, although personally I found the many example stories were sometimes trite. Franco has a very conversational way of writing, which maybe lessened the potential impact. I appreciated the clear intersectionality, the chapter on vulnerability had a good look at how this impacts men specifically, and there was another section on code switching and performance from POC.
informative
inspiring
reflective
medium-paced
informative
reflective
slow-paced
informative
reflective
medium-paced