4.5
challenging emotional informative reflective medium-paced

This book helped me better understand attachment theory, how and why people are the way they are in friendships (and life!), and understand my own triggers so they don’t drive automatic responses/thoughts.

I think a lot about the connection between social connection and longevity/health/happiness. Honestly, I struggle a lot with feeling like I don’t matter to my friends sometimes, and it contributes to feelings of disconnect — sometimes creating the very isolation i fear.

It is not easy work to reflect and take in information that challenges your behavior and thoughts, but I’m grateful this resource exists. 

The world would be a much gentler place if people loved and cared about each other more overtly and freely, but it’s also a gentler place if we have the perspective that people do care and are truly doing their best, and to focus on nurturing the friendships that make us feel safe and loved and mutually appreciated.