A review by roxymaybe
Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life by Emily Nagoski

5.0

I want to scatter this book in public places for strangers to find. I want to put it in loot bags at birthday parties. I want to print the whole thing on a t-shirt and wear it around town. It's great, and the conversational style is exceedingly readable. It's written specifically for cis women (the author acknowledges that she doesn't have the research to speak authoritatively about trans*/intersex people's experiences) but a lot of the concepts she covers are applicable to all people. In fact, that's one of the main motifs - that we all have the same parts, arranged in unique ways. It also has a focus on couples in long-term, monogamous relationships, and a lot of her exercises have to do with working together with your partner to work on specific issues. However, again, most of her suggestions can be applied in a variety of situations. My main beef with this book is the gratuitous use of the word "feels" (mass noun). I hate that word. It speaks volumes to this book that I still love it despite how often that word shows up. Read this book!