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A review by snarkywench
Friend Is Not a Verb by Daniel Ehrenhaft
3.0
I am a shallow being. I freely admit to be as such as I purchased this book based on the title, cover art and the fact that it was authored by a man. Turns out that my puerile ways resulted in a great read told from a teen male perspective and a new (much needed) male YA author in my arsenal - not a bad day's work.
There are so many things to like about Ehrenhaft's exploration of a teen romance gone kaput, a friendship strained and a sister at a distance. Introspective, sensitive and quirky - the reader is taken on a journey where the character gradually shifts in his consciousness which affect his choices in turn. The voice of the character is so relatable and authentic that it is frighteningly easy to share his mind. He's sullen, oblivious, quick witted and slovenly - sometimes all in the same passage. The author really captured the contemporary teen male voice without playing to cliches or this female's perception of what a guy sounds like.
While many readers might gravitate to the romantic or friendship aspects of the novel, I found myself captured by the brother-sister dynamic presented. As an older sister the push and pull of Sarah and Hen's relationship really rang true to me. Boys aren't as outward in their feelings as their female counterparts and this is shown to great affect with the impact Sarah's disappearance (and return) have upon Hen. To the outside world he doesn't care - but that's anything but the truth. This segues nicely into Hen's bass playing and Gabe's impact on his musicality and growth as a son, brother and friend. It's quiet and beautifully realised.
Teen girls are crazy and it was quite amusing to see them at work from the laid back perspective of our protagonist. Whether it was the selfish manoeuvrings of Petra, Emily's personality 180 or Sarah's deliberate quash on enlightening Hen with any information whatsoever it is fun to see what rolled off his back and how much truly resonated. It is here that I had some concerns, at times the depiction of some of the secondary characters was a little light but never falling into caricature territory. The central problem of Sarah's disappearance is handled well in retrospect but when reading it felt a little anti-climatic. There is also a sub plot involving dogs that felt extraneous but I could also argue that most things you do during the summer are immaterial.
The voice is fun...even when mocking Journey and the pudgy kid from Dawson's Creek (oh no you didn't mock my Pacey). It moves quickly with Hen envisioning his life retold as part of the now defunct MTV Behind the Scenes. Ehrenhaft smoothly navigates the many intermingling subplots and Hen's growing awareness with humour, perceptiveness and some catchy dialogue.
A contemporary tale about a guy, his bass, the girl next door, his self-absorbed ex and his MIA sister that has its hand on its heart, crotch and funny bone.
There are so many things to like about Ehrenhaft's exploration of a teen romance gone kaput, a friendship strained and a sister at a distance. Introspective, sensitive and quirky - the reader is taken on a journey where the character gradually shifts in his consciousness which affect his choices in turn. The voice of the character is so relatable and authentic that it is frighteningly easy to share his mind. He's sullen, oblivious, quick witted and slovenly - sometimes all in the same passage. The author really captured the contemporary teen male voice without playing to cliches or this female's perception of what a guy sounds like.
While many readers might gravitate to the romantic or friendship aspects of the novel, I found myself captured by the brother-sister dynamic presented. As an older sister the push and pull of Sarah and Hen's relationship really rang true to me. Boys aren't as outward in their feelings as their female counterparts and this is shown to great affect with the impact Sarah's disappearance (and return) have upon Hen. To the outside world he doesn't care - but that's anything but the truth. This segues nicely into Hen's bass playing and Gabe's impact on his musicality and growth as a son, brother and friend. It's quiet and beautifully realised.
Teen girls are crazy and it was quite amusing to see them at work from the laid back perspective of our protagonist. Whether it was the selfish manoeuvrings of Petra, Emily's personality 180 or Sarah's deliberate quash on enlightening Hen with any information whatsoever it is fun to see what rolled off his back and how much truly resonated. It is here that I had some concerns, at times the depiction of some of the secondary characters was a little light but never falling into caricature territory. The central problem of Sarah's disappearance is handled well in retrospect but when reading it felt a little anti-climatic. There is also a sub plot involving dogs that felt extraneous but I could also argue that most things you do during the summer are immaterial.
The voice is fun...even when mocking Journey and the pudgy kid from Dawson's Creek (oh no you didn't mock my Pacey). It moves quickly with Hen envisioning his life retold as part of the now defunct MTV Behind the Scenes. Ehrenhaft smoothly navigates the many intermingling subplots and Hen's growing awareness with humour, perceptiveness and some catchy dialogue.
A contemporary tale about a guy, his bass, the girl next door, his self-absorbed ex and his MIA sister that has its hand on its heart, crotch and funny bone.