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A review by rachellarson2019
Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life by Emily Nagoski
4.0
I really liked this book! While other reviewers found the authors metaphors and “dumbing down” of scientific concepts to be offensively condescending to women (implying women can’t grasp complex science), I found it very helpful. I guess I’m the dum dum this book was written for.
While I’m not partnered and so don’t need the specific relationship advice, I had wanted to read this book as part of my work towards undoing harm from purity culture and trying to address some trauma. I had knowledge of some of what is covered (responsive arousal, basic anatomy) thanks to Dr Celeste Holbrook on Instagram, but those and many other things were covered by this author in extensive detail. I wish a lot of this was taught as sex Ed before people enter into relationships.
The overwhelming message of this book is that everyone has all of the same parts (physical and emotional), just arranged in different ways and that you are normal.
The parts of the book I found most helpful were around the importance of context and how the stress cycle works and has impact.
While I’m not partnered and so don’t need the specific relationship advice, I had wanted to read this book as part of my work towards undoing harm from purity culture and trying to address some trauma. I had knowledge of some of what is covered (responsive arousal, basic anatomy) thanks to Dr Celeste Holbrook on Instagram, but those and many other things were covered by this author in extensive detail. I wish a lot of this was taught as sex Ed before people enter into relationships.
The overwhelming message of this book is that everyone has all of the same parts (physical and emotional), just arranged in different ways and that you are normal.
The parts of the book I found most helpful were around the importance of context and how the stress cycle works and has impact.