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januaryf's review
3.0
Great book with lots of points to get you thinking. The "Questions to ask yourself" are really helpful and enlightening. My brain has too much to process now.
carmiendo's review against another edition
5.0
FUCK WHO YOU WANT AND FUCK WHO YOU LIKE
ok so i read this book for a complicated series of reasons, like probably i shouldn't have recommended it without reading it myself first. shockingly it didn't contain any new information for me! i don't regret this decision though.
i agree with saagar that it's pretty applicable for any type relationship, so if you like people and also enjoy not being a jerk you might want to read this book.
ok so i read this book for a complicated series of reasons, like probably i shouldn't have recommended it without reading it myself first. shockingly it didn't contain any new information for me! i don't regret this decision though.
i agree with saagar that it's pretty applicable for any type relationship, so if you like people and also enjoy not being a jerk you might want to read this book.
jaipal's review
5.0
I found this book to be an easy read with a mix of common sense that can be applied for both mono and poly relationships. The authors provide a lot of examples from their own experience as well as good advice for any relationships...mainly make it a choice and have good communication between partners. Being a book for poly relationships, this book provides poly centric chapters that are meant for those in poly relationships. That being said, the authors themselves say there are many different types of poly relationships and this book does not cover all the different types of relationships. There is no one best practice and each situation will require communication between partners to navigate through it.
I highly recommend this book, for anyone wanting relationship advice, be it a poly or mono relationship.
I highly recommend this book, for anyone wanting relationship advice, be it a poly or mono relationship.
mx_parall_el's review
4.0
I think even folks who remain monogamous could benefit from the questions this book poses. It presents information on healthy boundary setting and maintenance that anyone in any relationship type could use. It also demystifies some of the issues polyamory has from just a general lack of resources on the topic. It does so without feeling very biased, stating only where they experienced issues and where they worry about the ethics on some issues, but always left me feeling like it was my choice about what felt right to me.
dfostermartin's review
2.0
More Than Two is ok as a basic primer on polyamory, but it's interesting, since it is in an older poly book, how much it has in common with The Ethical Slut (another older poly book). I appreciated the more nuts and bolts logistical information that was included in the later chapters, but it felt like (overall) a kind of dated perspective on things. A little bit like hearing about polyamory from a few baby boomers that you surprisingly meet. So, interesting, but not as informative as I was hoping.
emmaloren's review
5.0
I found this to be a really interesting and helpful book, regardless of whether you identify as monogamous or polyamorous.
There is a lot in there about communication and addressing needs that I wish I'd be able to take into my previous relationships.
Obviously some parts weren't relevant for me, but what was relevant, was super useful.
There is a lot in there about communication and addressing needs that I wish I'd be able to take into my previous relationships.
Obviously some parts weren't relevant for me, but what was relevant, was super useful.
leighwitz's review
4.0
I devoured this. Practical, honest, and warm. I want Franklin and Eve’s voices whispering in my ear with every decision I make about how to treat people like
people, protect my heart, remain open, and offer the immense amount of love I have to give.
2024 edit: Several years into polyamory, I'm able to see the flaws woven throughout. I've grown to have a more nuanced understanding of community care and the problems with a self-reliance mindset.
people, protect my heart, remain open, and offer the immense amount of love I have to give.
2024 edit: Several years into polyamory, I'm able to see the flaws woven throughout. I've grown to have a more nuanced understanding of community care and the problems with a self-reliance mindset.
megatsunami's review
3.0
There were a lot of good principles in this book. But apparently, according to all of Franklin's ex-girlfriends including the co-author Eve, he himself is actually a jerk in relationships... which makes it feel a little weird to take advice from him.
Overall I agree with the principles here and it gave me some food for thought. The book felt somewhat repetitive and it could have been shorter. I wished the example situations were not 90% hetero. I wished the authors spoke about gender and culture at all. (For example, in the situation about passive vs direct communication, wouldn't it be helpful to acknowledge the role of gender socialization?)
Overall I agree with the principles here and it gave me some food for thought. The book felt somewhat repetitive and it could have been shorter. I wished the example situations were not 90% hetero. I wished the authors spoke about gender and culture at all. (For example, in the situation about passive vs direct communication, wouldn't it be helpful to acknowledge the role of gender socialization?)
rachjunard's review
informative
medium-paced
2.25
Good first start for poly stuff, I have been told this is the “Bible” with a grain of salt. Main focus is on hetero couple/structure. No cultural aspect to it.
americanmenace's review
4.0
Read this last year. Very helpful book and was my first book on nonmonogamy.
I’ve since heard the male author Franklin is a terrible person but the advice in the book itself is really solid if you can separate the two.
I’ve since heard the male author Franklin is a terrible person but the advice in the book itself is really solid if you can separate the two.