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alyssamandy's review against another edition
emotional
funny
inspiring
reflective
sad
fast-paced
5.0
kathrynhoss's review against another edition
4.0
This is not a self-help book. It's mostly memoir, a look back at all the things the author has survived to get to the impressive age of eighty-seven, with a tiny bit of investigative journalism on the conditions of nursing homes and the funeral industry. If you liked Caitlin Doughty's Smoke Gets In Your Eyes, this is the prelude, a plea to decide how you want to grow old before you're unable to decide for yourself. That said, the author doesn't always follow her own advice.
Elizabeth Marshall Thomas is a fascinating woman. I didn't realize when I requested an ARC that she is a bestselling author and anthropologist. If you're expecting a conservative book from a doddering old woman, this is not it. Our G Liz has escaped a lion attack. She tried to light a cigarette on her 80th birthday cake but her children wouldn't let her. She lost her husband only a few years ago. She has faced death and come out the other side wiser and a good bit more insecure, with macular degeneration and all the social indignities of growing older. I hope her children and grandchildren value her, spend quality time with her, and follow her wishes once she can't make decisions for herself.
This book is extremely readable and interesting. My only note is that I wish it were longer, and maybe included more research on how to age gracefully like it says on the tin. However, I would absolutely recommend this to young and aging people alike. As a society, we need to learn to see the elderly as people, and to plan for the eventual reality of growing old (if we're lucky.)
I eagerly await the author's book on commas, because I use them way too much for dramatic effect and I think she will only validate this.
I received a temporary ARC in return for an honest review. #Netgalley #GrowingOld
Elizabeth Marshall Thomas is a fascinating woman. I didn't realize when I requested an ARC that she is a bestselling author and anthropologist. If you're expecting a conservative book from a doddering old woman, this is not it. Our G Liz has escaped a lion attack. She tried to light a cigarette on her 80th birthday cake but her children wouldn't let her. She lost her husband only a few years ago. She has faced death and come out the other side wiser and a good bit more insecure, with macular degeneration and all the social indignities of growing older. I hope her children and grandchildren value her, spend quality time with her, and follow her wishes once she can't make decisions for herself.
This book is extremely readable and interesting. My only note is that I wish it were longer, and maybe included more research on how to age gracefully like it says on the tin. However, I would absolutely recommend this to young and aging people alike. As a society, we need to learn to see the elderly as people, and to plan for the eventual reality of growing old (if we're lucky.)
I eagerly await the author's book on commas, because I use them way too much for dramatic effect and I think she will only validate this.
I received a temporary ARC in return for an honest review. #Netgalley #GrowingOld
caklock's review
5.0
"If I'm about to die or if I'm dead when this book is published, I'm hoping the publisher will put THE AUTHOR DIED OF BAD HABITS in big red letters under my name on the cover."
The bad habit Elizabeth Marshall Thomas is referring to is cigarette smoking, which is a recurring topic to remind her (and us) that after all we are only human. And perhaps what really imparts grace upon us as we age is the ability to find acceptance and humor.
If you expect a 'how to' book you will be disappointed, although there are some gems, such as the contents of the letter addressed to her children and pinned to her kitchen wall in the event of her demise.
This book is like a conversation with a dear friend, sharing both sorrows and laughter, as she contemplates how she is navigating old age (the author is 88) and still thumbing her nose at convention. The picture on the dust jacket of the book is priceless.
I read this slim book in one sitting. Highly recommended.
The bad habit Elizabeth Marshall Thomas is referring to is cigarette smoking, which is a recurring topic to remind her (and us) that after all we are only human. And perhaps what really imparts grace upon us as we age is the ability to find acceptance and humor.
If you expect a 'how to' book you will be disappointed, although there are some gems, such as the contents of the letter addressed to her children and pinned to her kitchen wall in the event of her demise.
This book is like a conversation with a dear friend, sharing both sorrows and laughter, as she contemplates how she is navigating old age (the author is 88) and still thumbing her nose at convention. The picture on the dust jacket of the book is priceless.
I read this slim book in one sitting. Highly recommended.
heather_ann's review
4.0
Even though this book is really just a collection of thoughts and reflections from an 89 year old, I found it to be incredibly insightful and full of wisdom. Also, I think Thomas’ background in anthropology really lends to the quality of this book compared to others like it. I would give five stars, but I found it to be a little slow in the beginning, and there were a few parts that seemed to meander away from the primary subject.
dmtcer's review
4.0
I absolutely love Elizabeth Marshall Thomas' voice in this book. She is authentic, quirky, funny, and yet the topic is not one to take lightly - growing old. But; why not grow old with grace and ones own unique take on the world in the aging process?
I wasn't sure what to expect when I first started reading, but the author's purpose quickly came to light. I was enchanted as she described the travels embarked upon during her earlier years - exotic places where she spent years researching local flora and fauna, living strong among local people in often less-than-desirable conditions. Here she is now, in her late 80s, and it seems that despite her years of wisdom and experience she is often overlooked and discounted, as is so common in American society. Every person of a certain age has a story to tell; life experiences to share, and yet they are often treated as children, or even worse - they are invisible. Elizabeth Marshall Thomas is not invisible, nor is she childlike, in my opinion. Reading her words made me acutely aware of this. Her humor and honesty are charming and enlightening; I am so grateful to have read this book. We should all take a page from her book and live our lives to the fullest; we never know how much time we have left.
I wasn't sure what to expect when I first started reading, but the author's purpose quickly came to light. I was enchanted as she described the travels embarked upon during her earlier years - exotic places where she spent years researching local flora and fauna, living strong among local people in often less-than-desirable conditions. Here she is now, in her late 80s, and it seems that despite her years of wisdom and experience she is often overlooked and discounted, as is so common in American society. Every person of a certain age has a story to tell; life experiences to share, and yet they are often treated as children, or even worse - they are invisible. Elizabeth Marshall Thomas is not invisible, nor is she childlike, in my opinion. Reading her words made me acutely aware of this. Her humor and honesty are charming and enlightening; I am so grateful to have read this book. We should all take a page from her book and live our lives to the fullest; we never know how much time we have left.
kterhaar's review
4.0
Elizabeth Marshall Thomas at age 87 reports on aging in a factual and sometimes humorous way. Wonderful insight into aging and death.
samhouston's review
3.0
Elizabeth Marshall Thomas has lived an extraordinary life. She has been a bestselling author of books about animal behavior and other cultures based upon her decades of personal observations and experiences from around the world. She has, in fact, been places and done things that the rest of us can only dream about. Thomas, though, is eighty-eight years old and that kind of adventure is forever behind her. These days, the author spends much of her time observing the human aging process in herself and those around her and figuring out how to make the best of the years she has left. Now, with Growing Old: Notes on Aging with Something Like Grace, she shares her observations and thoughts with the rest of us.
Perhaps because Thomas is only seventeen years older than me, and that I’ve been caring for my 97-year-old father for a decade now, relatively little of what she has to say here really surprises me. I suspect, though, that readers in their fourth and fifth decades will have an entirely different reaction to reading Growing Old. Too, those hoping to find religiously-based reasons for not fearing aging and death should note that they are not going to find them here. According to Thomas, “…by the time I was in my teens, I’d decided that if God does unacceptable things, he’s not like an employer whose job you can quit or a public official you can vote against. All you can do about a cruel invisible tyrant is to believe he doesn’t exist.” She goes on to say, “So I decided there wasn’t a hell, and death seemed a little less horrible.”
Growing Old includes chapters on how quickly time seems to pass for elderly people; on reasons not to fear death; on how deteriorating eyesight can directly lead to hearing loss and dementia; on the “cultural problems” associated with old age; on how too many doctors really feel about the elderly; and on how having friends will keep you alive, among other topics. And then there are the practical chapters covering topics such as senior living communities, medications, funeral homes and cemeteries, and the like. All of this will be invaluable information for those who are themselves approaching old age or whose parents are already there.
But there are also takeaways for near-contemporaries of the author, cheerful little pep talks like the following paragraph:
“Thus life while aging can be wonderful. It’s just wonderful in a different way than it was when you were young. For instance, you’re smarter than the younger people, but not because your brain functions better. Your brain was at its peak when you were thirty, and now that you’re old, you forget people’s names and lose things. But you understand the world around you more deeply and clearly. You excel at interpreting your surroundings because of all you’ve learned.”
And, finally, there’s this thought:
“Not only can you adjust to aging; you can sometimes do the things you did when you were young. You just do them with a little more equipment and in different ways, which seems easy enough, especially if age has made you smarter and more thoughtful.”
Bottom Line: Sometimes deadly serious, sometimes funny, Growing Old is part memoir, part handbook on the whole aging process. While it does not break much new ground, it does offer useful insights into growing old for the uninitiated. It could be especially useful, I think, for those trying to deal with and understand their elderly parents. Next up for Thomas is a book on commas, how to use them correctly and why she loves them so much. I can’t wait. (Seriously.)
Perhaps because Thomas is only seventeen years older than me, and that I’ve been caring for my 97-year-old father for a decade now, relatively little of what she has to say here really surprises me. I suspect, though, that readers in their fourth and fifth decades will have an entirely different reaction to reading Growing Old. Too, those hoping to find religiously-based reasons for not fearing aging and death should note that they are not going to find them here. According to Thomas, “…by the time I was in my teens, I’d decided that if God does unacceptable things, he’s not like an employer whose job you can quit or a public official you can vote against. All you can do about a cruel invisible tyrant is to believe he doesn’t exist.” She goes on to say, “So I decided there wasn’t a hell, and death seemed a little less horrible.”
Growing Old includes chapters on how quickly time seems to pass for elderly people; on reasons not to fear death; on how deteriorating eyesight can directly lead to hearing loss and dementia; on the “cultural problems” associated with old age; on how too many doctors really feel about the elderly; and on how having friends will keep you alive, among other topics. And then there are the practical chapters covering topics such as senior living communities, medications, funeral homes and cemeteries, and the like. All of this will be invaluable information for those who are themselves approaching old age or whose parents are already there.
But there are also takeaways for near-contemporaries of the author, cheerful little pep talks like the following paragraph:
“Thus life while aging can be wonderful. It’s just wonderful in a different way than it was when you were young. For instance, you’re smarter than the younger people, but not because your brain functions better. Your brain was at its peak when you were thirty, and now that you’re old, you forget people’s names and lose things. But you understand the world around you more deeply and clearly. You excel at interpreting your surroundings because of all you’ve learned.”
And, finally, there’s this thought:
“Not only can you adjust to aging; you can sometimes do the things you did when you were young. You just do them with a little more equipment and in different ways, which seems easy enough, especially if age has made you smarter and more thoughtful.”
Bottom Line: Sometimes deadly serious, sometimes funny, Growing Old is part memoir, part handbook on the whole aging process. While it does not break much new ground, it does offer useful insights into growing old for the uninitiated. It could be especially useful, I think, for those trying to deal with and understand their elderly parents. Next up for Thomas is a book on commas, how to use them correctly and why she loves them so much. I can’t wait. (Seriously.)
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