331 reviews for:

The Tender Bar

J.R. Moehringer

3.9 AVERAGE

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lneff514's review

4.0

Sad account of men, addiction, depression, and loneliness.

marcus4's review

4.5
reflective medium-paced
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kricketa's review

2.0

read for book club. not my cup of tea. (or in the case of our book club, glass of wine.) i got so far in it, though, that it seemed stupid not to finish it. too long, too whiny, waah waah waah.

mirandajaspermcleanii's review

DID NOT FINISH

Boring

kitkat2500's review

3.0

A well-written memoir full of colorful, larger-than-life characters. The most present, of course, is the bar at which the author spends so much of his youth. The book is written with lots of emotion, with a particular focus on the need that a young boy has for male role models. His relationship with his mother is quite prominent as well. I hope the author writes a follow-up book that explores the challenges of the years after he left the bar...

dianaj23's review

5.0

This is a book I'd thrust into the hands of every teenage boy out there: it's a book about a boy becoming a man, by looking up to the all the male figures in an utopian bar. JR, a boy raised by his mother alone, fighting poverty, loneliness and feelings of inadequacy finds solace in the bar across the street, which manages to bring together people from all backgrounds, a sort of completed Babel Tower.

It is also a memoir, which makes the reading all the more enticing: after all, few things are more catchy than a good story that's real.

It's a coming of age book revealing the struggles of manhood and finding your voice. A delightful reading, from the beginning to the end, and an honest look at what it takes to be a man.


I'd say it's between a 3.5 and a 4 on the star scale, but we round up in my family.

Some of the writing didn't feel very tight, and some of the situations didn't seem very believable. These were a small enough part of the whole that reading this book was still very enjoyable. The epilogue had me in tears.

caitisinks's review

4.5
funny reflective fast-paced
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sonia_reppe's review

5.0

After reading the prologue I put the book down, not wanting to read about fat guys sitting at a bar. But it turns out this book is about a boy's life (JR) and he's a great writer. The prologue was unnecessary, as most of them are, which is why they annoy me. Epilogues, on the other hand, I love; and this one was really sad.

JR gets into Yale, and one of my favorite parts was where Frank Sinatra gives a speech at Yale.

Lots of literary allusions as a bonus.
emotional inspiring reflective medium-paced