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daumari's review
5.0
I was first introduced to self-compassion and mindfulness in grad school when I was spiraling to finish, and it turned out to be a key part of alleviating decades of self-judgement and depression. It didn't immediately take, but I'd never allowed thoughts the space to simply be, and examine them with compassion.
So, it's unsurprising to see these applied to the stressful situations that'll arise as a parent. While the first thing to come to mind is my friend Paul Bowers' blog on swears for credibility, You Are Not a Shitty Parent is a kind, friendly introduction to self-compassion and how to apply it to yourself and your family. While people have parented for, well, millennia, that doesn't necessarily make it easy or intuitive and it's really hard to not feel like a failure (I imagine, anyway- this is still mostly hypothetical for me currently), but it's okay to allow yourself grace, and give yourself the space to examine where those feelings come from and how to be kind to yourself when navigating.
Like... it does come across a little hippie woo but! Reframing this as "don't talk to yourself this way, you wouldn't talk to a friend like that" has been extremely helpful in pausing to reconsider my own negative self-talk and it'll be SO incredibly helpful to foster that curiosity/kindness mindset in kiddo early on. I remember intensely judging myself for perceived failings as early as second grade, and I don't want that for my kid(s).
So, it's unsurprising to see these applied to the stressful situations that'll arise as a parent. While the first thing to come to mind is my friend Paul Bowers' blog on swears for credibility, You Are Not a Shitty Parent is a kind, friendly introduction to self-compassion and how to apply it to yourself and your family. While people have parented for, well, millennia, that doesn't necessarily make it easy or intuitive and it's really hard to not feel like a failure (I imagine, anyway- this is still mostly hypothetical for me currently), but it's okay to allow yourself grace, and give yourself the space to examine where those feelings come from and how to be kind to yourself when navigating.
Like... it does come across a little hippie woo but! Reframing this as "don't talk to yourself this way, you wouldn't talk to a friend like that" has been extremely helpful in pausing to reconsider my own negative self-talk and it'll be SO incredibly helpful to foster that curiosity/kindness mindset in kiddo early on. I remember intensely judging myself for perceived failings as early as second grade, and I don't want that for my kid(s).
notinjersey's review
4.0
If you’re a parent, it’s likely that at some point you felt like maybe you weren’t the best parent out there. With all of the demands of every day life, social media, and a global pandemic, author Carla Naumberg saw that so many parents were blaming themselves for things they couldn’t fix. She wrote You Are Not A Sh*tty Parent to help parents realize that the key to being a great parent starts with self-compassion. You Are Not A Sh*tty Parent helps you find self-compassion through four elements: noticing, connection, curiosity, and compassion. Learning self-compassion leads to compassion towards your kids. This book is like having a trusted friend to help you feel less anxiety about your parenting.
mannim's review
challenging
emotional
funny
hopeful
informative
inspiring
lighthearted
reflective
fast-paced
4.0
sebrittainclark's review
informative
medium-paced
4.0
I really enjoyed this book about self compassion and how it can help your parenting. It addresses all the negative self talk and ways we try to distract ourselves from that, that just make us feel worse, and strategies for how to break out of that cycle and model that compassion for our kids.
Thanks to netgalley and the publisher for an ARC in exchange for an honest review.
Thanks to netgalley and the publisher for an ARC in exchange for an honest review.
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