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lowkeymarie's review
emotional
funny
hopeful
informative
inspiring
lighthearted
reflective
fast-paced
4.25
Nothing really groundbreaking here, but still a very satisfying read.
Content Warnings
Graphic: Rape, Sexual assault, Misogyny, Sexism, and Infidelity
Moderate: Cancer
gaderianne's review against another edition
sad
fast-paced
4.0
This was a book that I could relate to in two ways. 1) As an American divorced woman who was in a terrible relationship where I gave
up everything about myself and more than I can say here in a review. That part of me really related to Lyz’s journey. 2) Also as a happily re-married American woman. I can still relate to all the reflections about what is wrong not in any specific marriage - but what is wrong with the system that makes it so. The answer is patriarchy.
The main thing I didn’t like about this book is what I often don’t like about books that grow out of a series of personal reflections and essays - it got to be repetitive. The same story was mentioned multiple times, the same thing over and over. It’s an attempt to be a cohesive narrative, but it falls a bit short.
Some quotes that resonated with me: “It’s the work of noticing that isn’t being done. And what is lost when the people who love us do not see our labor? It’s our happiness.” (41% kindle)
“That’s the hardest thing to understand about a bad relationship: It has so many good moments. We hold those ragged good scraps, piecing them together, hoping to make a complete thing of it. Something that will cover us, and maybe we can.” (50% kindle)
“The trap of romantic love is that it can convince you that your servanthood is a requirement, a necessary sacrifice for the relationship. But, at some point, I had to ask, when was I ever served?” (54% kindle)
up everything about myself and more than I can say here in a review. That part of me really related to Lyz’s journey. 2) Also as a happily re-married American woman. I can still relate to all the reflections about what is wrong not in any specific marriage - but what is wrong with the system that makes it so. The answer is patriarchy.
The main thing I didn’t like about this book is what I often don’t like about books that grow out of a series of personal reflections and essays - it got to be repetitive. The same story was mentioned multiple times, the same thing over and over. It’s an attempt to be a cohesive narrative, but it falls a bit short.
Some quotes that resonated with me: “It’s the work of noticing that isn’t being done. And what is lost when the people who love us do not see our labor? It’s our happiness.” (41% kindle)
“That’s the hardest thing to understand about a bad relationship: It has so many good moments. We hold those ragged good scraps, piecing them together, hoping to make a complete thing of it. Something that will cover us, and maybe we can.” (50% kindle)
“The trap of romantic love is that it can convince you that your servanthood is a requirement, a necessary sacrifice for the relationship. But, at some point, I had to ask, when was I ever served?” (54% kindle)
doublearegee's review
challenging
dark
emotional
hopeful
informative
inspiring
medium-paced
3.5
Not what I was expecting, but still interesting.
stolenwater's review against another edition
emotional
funny
hopeful
informative
reflective
fast-paced
4.5