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justmyfantasyworld's review against another edition
informative
medium-paced
3.5
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Very practical book with tips and tricks for your relationship. Even when not in a relationship at the moment, I found the information and examples given very useful.
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๐ฅ๐ฎ๐๐ถ๐ป๐ด: โโโ 3.5/5
Very practical book with tips and tricks for your relationship. Even when not in a relationship at the moment, I found the information and examples given very useful.
A lot of my reviews are also available with photo at my Bookstagram: @justmyfantasyworld
katikins's review against another edition
I found the discussion on attachment styles valuable, but the authorโs perspective is very cis heteronormative and as the book continued I found it grating. He lost me entirely when he started talking about how your romantic partner is responsible for being your anti-depressant and anxiety cure โno copay required!โโฆ big yikes. Take your meds yโall!
grindrgrrl's review against another edition
2.0
I want to give it between 2&3. It provides interesting reframing of the way we talk about attachment styles from secure, anxious and avoidant to anchors, islands and waves. Providing new ways of showing it without really anything new.
I appreciate the use, though subtle of gay relationships within. The book does provide useful tools but tends to be overly simplistic in approach and I think could use an update on how the approach would work on polyamorous relationships.
There are stronger books out there like Hold Me Tight that are really transformative in how you think about relationship patterns and navigating them.
I appreciate the use, though subtle of gay relationships within. The book does provide useful tools but tends to be overly simplistic in approach and I think could use an update on how the approach would work on polyamorous relationships.
There are stronger books out there like Hold Me Tight that are really transformative in how you think about relationship patterns and navigating them.
lsparrow's review against another edition
3.0
it has taken me a lot of attachment reading to start to understand attachment and how it can be more than an assessment of parenting or an explaination for unhelpful behaviours.
I did like the renaming of the styles to anchor, island and wave and the focus on brain function and recognizing it rather than changing or feeling guilty for our style. I did feel that like many attachment theories even in parenting it has a very one-on-one, two person relationship style that I feel excludes many other ways of being. I do like idea of a relationship bubble - but can we create this place of safety and commitment without making the relationship the only place for security and it being an us against the world mentality. I find many attachment theories are missing the idea of the village - both in parenting and relationships - it is the idea of the one place of safety and security - what if there is more than one that does not compete or negate the other.
I did like the renaming of the styles to anchor, island and wave and the focus on brain function and recognizing it rather than changing or feeling guilty for our style. I did feel that like many attachment theories even in parenting it has a very one-on-one, two person relationship style that I feel excludes many other ways of being. I do like idea of a relationship bubble - but can we create this place of safety and commitment without making the relationship the only place for security and it being an us against the world mentality. I find many attachment theories are missing the idea of the village - both in parenting and relationships - it is the idea of the one place of safety and security - what if there is more than one that does not compete or negate the other.
jessica_philli's review against another edition
NR. I'm really torn on this book. On one hand, I learned a lot and it gave me some great insight into myself/how I approach my relationship and even friendships. I appreciate the view that relationships are a learned skill!
On the other hand: The author suggested that your relationship can be the best treatment for anxiety/depression?! Also the claim that you shouldn't use therapy for anything you haven't discussed with your partner?! Coming from a literal doctor of psychology...no <3
Also maybe I'm just ~an island~ but I don't think the author left much room for the different types of people and relationships that exist, such as the role of friendship/external parties, the 24/7 rule which is an absolute nightmare, etc.
On the other hand: The author suggested that your relationship can be the best treatment for anxiety/depression?! Also the claim that you shouldn't use therapy for anything you haven't discussed with your partner?! Coming from a literal doctor of psychology...no <3
Also maybe I'm just ~an island~ but I don't think the author left much room for the different types of people and relationships that exist, such as the role of friendship/external parties, the 24/7 rule which is an absolute nightmare, etc.
mildsensation's review against another edition
emotional
hopeful
informative
inspiring
reflective
medium-paced
3.0
wrenl's review against another edition
3.0
My therapist suggested I read this to address some of my issues with my partner, and Iโm very glad I did. This book makes you think about romantic relationships in a different way. The advice is surprising at times and almost deceptively easy. Iโm excited to share this book with my partner.