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Love WITH Accountability: Digging up the Roots of Child Sexual Abuse by Aishah Shahidah Simmons
oakie's review
challenging
emotional
informative
inspiring
reflective
sad
medium-paced
4.5
Since every chapter was by someone different it felt like I was grading essays for a class and not reading a book to learn stuff but when I shook off that feeling it had a lot of points of views and experiences that showed a pretty wide range of what it means to have love with accountability and it really made me think what I would define it as
My main take away was stop keeping it a secret and believe children (even if now an adult) who say they were abused. But a lot of smaller pieces were absorbed into my brain that I hope can make me a better advocate for people in my life
My main take away was stop keeping it a secret and believe children (even if now an adult) who say they were abused. But a lot of smaller pieces were absorbed into my brain that I hope can make me a better advocate for people in my life
cebolla's review
3.0
Decent book, but the title is slightly misleading and 95% of the essays were already published
historicalmaterialgirl's review
"Help me not be afraid of you."
This book is beautiful and I'm so glad it exists. At the same time, I can't read it. It is hurting more than it is helping. I definitely feel glad there are so many other survivors who turn to restorative and/or transformative justice.
This book is beautiful and I'm so glad it exists. At the same time, I can't read it. It is hurting more than it is helping. I definitely feel glad there are so many other survivors who turn to restorative and/or transformative justice.
Content Warnings
Graphic: Sexual violence and Child abuse
Moderate: Racism
averyjpub's review
I wasnt finished with this book, tbh, but I had to be finished with it because I can't read the same thing over and over again, which is not to say it wasnt a good book, just that it's truly heartbreaking to read about how systems fail rape survivors over and over again. As a survivor it's a hard read for me because it does explore what accountability could look like after harm, and I'm not there yet. However, to me, it's not an instructional guide on love with accountability, or maybe it is but it's not structural enough for me, which is kind of disappointing.
cookmiranda1923's review
emotional
inspiring
reflective
5.0
Content Warnings
Moderate: Domestic abuse, Emotional abuse, Incest, Pedophilia, Rape, Sexual violence, Child abuse, Trafficking, Sexual assault, and Suicidal thoughts
garberdog's review
4.0
Somewhat disappointed by this one.
I was expecting a deeper discussion of what the editor means by “love with accountability.” Instead, this volume focuses mostly on the aspects of naming and healing from child sexual abuse, especially within the context of the Black community. That’s a very important and necessary contribution. Nonetheless, the question of how accountability actually works and what it means nagged at me throughout.
I feel this question of accountability is better addressed by other volumes, like Beyond Survival, The Revolution Starts at Home, and Feminist Accountability (Ann Russo), the first of which the editor of this volume actually recommends you read alongside Love with Accountability.
If you’re looking for a volume of survivor testimony, particularly from Black survivors, this is an excellent contribution. But for the difficult questions of how to actually intervene to stop child sexual abuse, this volume offers little in the way of specifics.
I was expecting a deeper discussion of what the editor means by “love with accountability.” Instead, this volume focuses mostly on the aspects of naming and healing from child sexual abuse, especially within the context of the Black community. That’s a very important and necessary contribution. Nonetheless, the question of how accountability actually works and what it means nagged at me throughout.
I feel this question of accountability is better addressed by other volumes, like Beyond Survival, The Revolution Starts at Home, and Feminist Accountability (Ann Russo), the first of which the editor of this volume actually recommends you read alongside Love with Accountability.
If you’re looking for a volume of survivor testimony, particularly from Black survivors, this is an excellent contribution. But for the difficult questions of how to actually intervene to stop child sexual abuse, this volume offers little in the way of specifics.
laudateluna's review
slow-paced
5.0
Love with Accountability is one of those rare books that will change your outlook on life. It's intense but make no mistake this book is about hope foremost. Take your time & be safe. A better world is possible we only have to work for it.
Content Warnings
Graphic: Adult/minor relationship, Alcoholism, Body shaming, Child abuse, Chronic illness, Child death, Death, Domestic abuse, Drug abuse, Emotional abuse, Gaslighting, Genocide, Grief, Incest, Homophobia, Medical trauma, Mental illness, Misogyny, Pedophilia, Police brutality, Physical abuse, Racism, Rape, Sexual assault, Sexual harassment, Sexual violence, Slavery, Suicidal thoughts, Suicide, Terminal illness, Toxic relationship, Trafficking, Transphobia, and Violence
Its a book of accounts by survivors of Child Sexual Abuse and other forms of domestic abuse. These accounts are as open as their respected authors wanted to be. They futhermore describe difficulites in family relationships, opening up about their abuse and finding justice. But always under the light that its necessary to hold those we love accountable because we love them.zenlara's review
5.0
These essays are transformative and healing and challenging. So grateful to have this work out there.