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The Person You Mean to Be: How Good People Fight Bias by Dolly Chugh, Lazlo Bock

nixpov's review against another edition

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challenging informative inspiring reflective slow-paced

4.0

This book articulates the importance & necessity for an educational approach to DEI. And it’s not all hypothetical, but covers a lot of ground on how to shift from a believer (someone who thinks they’re a good person) to a builder (someone who actually is a good person & does good things). 

missyvonne10's review against another edition

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4.0

I read this as part of a book study for a Learning Leaders course I participate in with my school district.

Be prepared to be uncomfortable and sit in that discomfort! This book is about equity in all things...workplace, community, etc...and addressing bias in "goodish people". Go into this with a growth mindset. I love that there are many real world examples to explore and actual conversational nuggets that I can use in difficult interactions.

amlibera's review against another edition

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5.0

Loved this - I've sat through so many trainings in unconscious bias and left feeling that while I understood the problem, knowing didn't provide me with any solutions. Chugh gives lots of suggestions for how to actively promote diversity and inclusion in ways that feel genuinely doable. Backed up with research and written with a warm and compassionate point of view.

ejoliverio's review against another edition

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hopeful informative reflective medium-paced

4.0

anacristinapb's review against another edition

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4.0

The last two sections of the book are the best, offering concrete ideas on how to be a supporter and a catalyst for change. The stories and real-life experiences she discusses in these sections are more relatable than those in previous sections.

jimmacsyr's review against another edition

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4.0

Eye opening book. Note to me: 20-60-20.
Need to reread. Audio book makes it hard yo go back after sections.

pattydsf's review against another edition

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3.0

“We redefine what it means to be a good person as someone who is trying to be better, as opposed to someone who is allowing themselves to believe in the illusion that they are always a good person.”
“The more we care about something, the more likely we are to willfully ignore negative relevant information about it. The more we care about something, the less we want to know.”
“Antiracist educator and author Debby Irving uses an often-cited headwinds and tailwinds metaphor to explain the invisibility of these systemic, group-level differences. Headwinds are the challenges -- some big, some small, some visible, some invisible -- that make life harder for some people, but not for all people. When you run against a headwind, your speed slows down and you have to push harder. You can feel the headwind. When you have a tailwind pushing you, it is a force that propels you forward. It is consequential but easily unnoticed or forgotten. In fact, if you are like me when I jog with a tailwind, you may glow with pride at your great running time that day, as if it were your own athletic prowess. When you have the tailwind, you will not notice that some runners are running into headwinds. They may be running as hard as, or even harder than, you, but they will appear lazier and slower to you. When some of them grow tired and stop trying, they will appear self-destructive to you.”


This book has a lot of good information. I had hoped Chugh would give me a kick in the pants so I could get back to working on being a better person. Her book did not help me as I had hoped. It is not Chugh’s fault. I resisted what she was telling me. I need to figure out a way to kick myself back into action.

I will try to get back to this information when I am more receptive.

edlee3's review against another edition

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informative inspiring reflective medium-paced

4.5

allireadsmke's review against another edition

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I was actually enjoying this, but I find it difficult to read nonfiction with my eyes. I'll probably pick this up in the future in audio format. 

allisonseverson's review against another edition

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4.0

Common read at work, provided good base for discussion with colleagues.