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brisingr's review
4.0
2nd read: 4th Nov 2022
Tired and angry, but somebody should be. (upping this to 4.5 stars because it's been years and the hatred is still as relevant and needed)
1st read: 15th June 2021
I really enjoyed this: a very accesible and broad look at current feminist issues and social balance between women and men. It's easy to read and it makes its point perfectly clear, bringing up important topics, easy to chew views, and powerful (and painfully real) statements. It is an essay, and considering how short it is, it does its job. It's made not to have depth beyond basic public understanding.
I'm guilty as charged of hating men, and it makes a lot of people around me sensitive. What people should understand, and this book is asking of its readers, is to understand that our hate, as women, is incomparable to the hate defined by men and the patriarchal society they benefit from. When we say we hate men, it doesn't mean we want to hurt them, physically pain them, but that's how it comes across because when men hate women, that's exactly how they treat us.
Instead, this book says that men are mediocre. A truth. And our hate challenges their privileges, and their inaction at their privileges, and demands better from them. I loved the way this book was written, it was delicate in tackling a subject that became taboo nonetheless (as they attempted to ban this book when it got published in France), and it challenged some very pervasive beliefs in society. I wish it was a bit longer, giving more depth and time to some of the chapters, but I enjoyed reading it nonetheless.
I don't exactly see how this book is a problem (surely, way more angry ones exist), unless it's coming from people who didn't bother to read beyond the title. But as I like to say, if you feel offended when we say we hate men, then maybe the shoe fits.
Tired and angry, but somebody should be. (upping this to 4.5 stars because it's been years and the hatred is still as relevant and needed)
1st read: 15th June 2021
I really enjoyed this: a very accesible and broad look at current feminist issues and social balance between women and men. It's easy to read and it makes its point perfectly clear, bringing up important topics, easy to chew views, and powerful (and painfully real) statements. It is an essay, and considering how short it is, it does its job. It's made not to have depth beyond basic public understanding.
I'm guilty as charged of hating men, and it makes a lot of people around me sensitive. What people should understand, and this book is asking of its readers, is to understand that our hate, as women, is incomparable to the hate defined by men and the patriarchal society they benefit from. When we say we hate men, it doesn't mean we want to hurt them, physically pain them, but that's how it comes across because when men hate women, that's exactly how they treat us.
Instead, this book says that men are mediocre. A truth. And our hate challenges their privileges, and their inaction at their privileges, and demands better from them. I loved the way this book was written, it was delicate in tackling a subject that became taboo nonetheless (as they attempted to ban this book when it got published in France), and it challenged some very pervasive beliefs in society. I wish it was a bit longer, giving more depth and time to some of the chapters, but I enjoyed reading it nonetheless.
I don't exactly see how this book is a problem (surely, way more angry ones exist), unless it's coming from people who didn't bother to read beyond the title. But as I like to say, if you feel offended when we say we hate men, then maybe the shoe fits.
olhografico's review against another edition
5.0
It is a nice beginner book, it felt like a judgment free space for us women. As I said, it is a beginner book, for those who are still uncomfortable to demand respect.
niamhmw's review
4.0
I can understand readers' constructive criticism about the lack of mentioning intersectionality specifically, but I do believe this book still holds value as a feminist.
Before reading this book, my idea of Misogyny and Misandry was indeed that they are two sides of the same coin. Now, I'm not so sure. I am developing my thoughts still- here is what I think so far...
Having to constantly deal with being called a Man hating feminist can be so draining, but this book's idgaf attitude is something to take note of. Having an instinctual fear or disliking of men is understandable considering all that we must go through on a day-to-day basis. It is not unreasonable. It is understandable. It is a consequence of their own actions. Misandry is a result of Misogyny.
* this does not mean hurt/erradicate/ be horrible to all men and whatnot but it means you are not alone in your fears and you aren't a bad person for having these instincts to keep your distance from a man just because he is a man.
Before reading this book, my idea of Misogyny and Misandry was indeed that they are two sides of the same coin. Now, I'm not so sure. I am developing my thoughts still- here is what I think so far...
Having to constantly deal with being called a Man hating feminist can be so draining, but this book's idgaf attitude is something to take note of. Having an instinctual fear or disliking of men is understandable considering all that we must go through on a day-to-day basis. It is not unreasonable. It is understandable. It is a consequence of their own actions. Misandry is a result of Misogyny.
* this does not mean hurt/erradicate/ be horrible to all men and whatnot but it means you are not alone in your fears and you aren't a bad person for having these instincts to keep your distance from a man just because he is a man.
fridde82's review against another edition
challenging
informative
inspiring
reflective
medium-paced
4.0
Kluge und pointierte Inspiration zu Misandrie