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emotional
funny
lighthearted
reflective
medium-paced
- Plot- or character-driven? A mix
- Strong character development? It's complicated
- Loveable characters? No
- Diverse cast of characters? It's complicated
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
2.75
I think this book may have been advertised wrong, because I went in to this book STOKED for the premise of a man trying to figure out why his girlfriend dumped him. In the prime time of people discussing weaponised incompetence and men doing the bare minimum, I really expected this to be an interesting story about a man slowly realising all the ways he mistreated his partner. But it honestly wasn't.
The book is mostly just a critique of how men aren't very good at emotionally supporting each other through events like breakups and the general shittiness of being dumped. But that's pretty much it, he doesn't really make any revelations or grow a lot as a character. Maybe that's the point, since that's the case for most men like him in reality, but that's not as interesting to me.
Ironically, the best part of the book is the final chapter from Jen's perspective. I think this book would've really benefitted from either alternating between them, or being solely from her view, because she was far more interesting than Andy.
I also hated the whole side plot about him dating a 23 year old, the book was definitely critical of it, but not enough in my opinion.
Overall it was still an alright book, I read it very quickly and it flowed well, but I think the advertised premise was a lot more interesting than the execution.
If you want a book with a similar premise but slightly better execution, Out of Love by Hazel Hayes plays out a relationship in reverse, starting with the breakup and ending with the day they met, to me it was much more impactful.
The book is mostly just a critique of how men aren't very good at emotionally supporting each other through events like breakups and the general shittiness of being dumped. But that's pretty much it, he doesn't really make any revelations or grow a lot as a character. Maybe that's the point, since that's the case for most men like him in reality, but that's not as interesting to me.
I also hated the whole side plot about him dating a 23 year old, the book was definitely critical of it, but not enough in my opinion.
Overall it was still an alright book, I read it very quickly and it flowed well, but I think the advertised premise was a lot more interesting than the execution.
If you want a book with a similar premise but slightly better execution, Out of Love by Hazel Hayes plays out a relationship in reverse, starting with the breakup and ending with the day they met, to me it was much more impactful.
Content Warnings
Graphic: Grief, Alcohol, Sexual content, Toxic relationship, Sexism, and Cursing
Moderate: Infertility
Minor: Eating disorder, Medical content, Stalking, Abandonment, Misogyny, and Pandemic/Epidemic
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