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moco71's review against another edition
5.0
It's been a long time since I read a book that I enjoyed as much as this one. It's about an INdan American family and their relationships with each other told in 4 parts...I don't want to give anything away. The writing is beautiful and I highly recommend.
pinkystardust's review against another edition
emotional
reflective
sad
medium-paced
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? Yes
- Loveable characters? It's complicated
- Diverse cast of characters? Yes
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
4.75
I mostly read fantasy books but this was recommended to me by a friend so I dove in. This is a beautiful, sad, story and had me feeling all the emotions. Very heavy. Worth it but now I'm sad. I need another fantasy break.
owenkl's review against another edition
reflective
sad
slow-paced
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? Yes
- Loveable characters? Yes
- Diverse cast of characters? Yes
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
4.0
mjhoke68's review against another edition
5.0
I would not have chosen this book if not for the recommendation of Kerry from Women Reading Great Books. It is early in 2020 but I feel that Fatima Farheen Mirza’s first published novel will stay with me and become one of my top reads for the year. The character development and interpersonal communication of this family is so well written and haunting. I will be following the author and eagerly await her next book. Highly recommend!
halthemonarch's review against another edition
5.0
I knew I would love this book after reading the first chapter. This story is about a family, Layla and Rafiq, and their three children, Hadia the oldest, Huda in the middle, and Amar, the youngest and the only boy. Their dynamic reminded me irresistibly of mine growing up— I had cousins who reminded me of Hadia and Amar respectively. Hadia is steady and responsible, gentle and reliable but loyal to her father. There was always tension because Rafiq was so strict and often quick to anger when met with circumstances he doesn’t understand; Hadia and Huda always imagined Amar to be the favorite child. He was always so sensitive and so complete in his sadness. Hadia too, struggled with her place in the world and her faith, but Amar’s path was 10x more explosive.
We bounce from the future to the present in this book. One moment we are with them as children, and the next we are at Hadia’s wedding to a suitor of her own choosing. Then we are witnessing the horrible fight that leads to Amar running away— his father suggesting rehab for his apparent heroin addiction and being thrown into a wall for his efforts. I could relate to Amar, his squirming at any sort of bounds imposed on him by his father specifically, believing in his heart he could change while still nursing pill and alcohol dependency— as though in his position he could be the kind of man to ask for his childhood lovers hand in marriage some day. Their social circle put limits on them, separating the sexes and demanding certain allegiances in God and his prophets that Amar seems to buck at every opportunity. Meanwhile, Hadia becomes the sort of daughter that her parents could depend on and gives her parents grandchildren once she becomes a doctor and marries. She inherits Rafiq’s watch which is the kind traditionally passed to sons. Amar steals it in his youth and leaves it for her at her wedding before bailing at the last minute, too drunk and upset for the family photo. Let me tell you, I would Kill My Cousins In The Face if they dared to make my wedding all about them! Yet the Ali family persisted, flourished even. In Rafiq’s old age he found calm and some clarity and forgiveness seems on the horizon at the end of the book.
This book reminded me of Pachinko a lot, though the ensemble isn’t quite as big, it’s ultimately a story about family and human nature— how it’s different culture to culture, beautiful and although different, wholly recognizable.
We bounce from the future to the present in this book. One moment we are with them as children, and the next we are at Hadia’s wedding to a suitor of her own choosing. Then we are witnessing the horrible fight that leads to Amar running away— his father suggesting rehab for his apparent heroin addiction and being thrown into a wall for his efforts. I could relate to Amar, his squirming at any sort of bounds imposed on him by his father specifically, believing in his heart he could change while still nursing pill and alcohol dependency— as though in his position he could be the kind of man to ask for his childhood lovers hand in marriage some day. Their social circle put limits on them, separating the sexes and demanding certain allegiances in God and his prophets that Amar seems to buck at every opportunity. Meanwhile, Hadia becomes the sort of daughter that her parents could depend on and gives her parents grandchildren once she becomes a doctor and marries. She inherits Rafiq’s watch which is the kind traditionally passed to sons. Amar steals it in his youth and leaves it for her at her wedding before bailing at the last minute, too drunk and upset for the family photo. Let me tell you, I would Kill My Cousins In The Face if they dared to make my wedding all about them! Yet the Ali family persisted, flourished even. In Rafiq’s old age he found calm and some clarity and forgiveness seems on the horizon at the end of the book.
This book reminded me of Pachinko a lot, though the ensemble isn’t quite as big, it’s ultimately a story about family and human nature— how it’s different culture to culture, beautiful and although different, wholly recognizable.
shelbykc's review against another edition
challenging
emotional
hopeful
sad
tense
medium-paced
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? Yes
- Loveable characters? It's complicated
- Diverse cast of characters? No
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
3.75
karlymarcy's review against another edition
challenging
dark
emotional
informative
reflective
sad
tense
medium-paced
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? Yes
- Loveable characters? Yes
- Diverse cast of characters? Yes
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
5.0
Content Warnings
Moderate: Mental illness, Islamophobia, Drug use, Racial slurs, Injury/Injury detail, Racism, Drug abuse, Alcoholism, Alcohol, and Violence
cleothegreat's review against another edition
4.0
‘ “Amar, wait.”He stops and turns to face her but he does not look up. “I’m not saying don’t do this. I am only saying don’t go so far that you don’t know how to come back home again.”She has reached him. She can see it from the way his eyebrows knit together before his face opens, unguarded, to her. She only needs him to nod or offer any reply that suggests he understands. “Hadia,” he says softly, in a tone that says she is the one who is failing to understand. “I have never felt at home here.” ‘
4.5 stars
ahh this was incredibly sad. im 6 years into LC & two years into NC with my family, largely due to religious reasons as well, so this story touched on a lot of my own experiences. incredibly bittersweet
4.5 stars
ahh this was incredibly sad. im 6 years into LC & two years into NC with my family, largely due to religious reasons as well, so this story touched on a lot of my own experiences. incredibly bittersweet
amneeereads's review against another edition
challenging
emotional
hopeful
reflective
relaxing
sad
tense
medium-paced
- Plot- or character-driven? A mix
- Strong character development? Yes
- Loveable characters? Yes
- Diverse cast of characters? Yes
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
5.0