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rainbowbookworm's review
2.0
jarcher's review
3.0
vaekay's review
1.5
Additionally, Nayeri's sweeping assumptions of other people's empathy seemed stupid. Nayeri claims that no one's "empathy" means that they are able to feel another person's pain, but instead they are relieved that they were spared from the other's pain. What the fuck? What Nayeri is describing is literally NOT empathy. Not how empathy is defined, nor how empathy is practiced. Maybe it is "sympathy," but even then, that is a very cruel definition of sympathy. It was apparent to me by the time I finished this text that Nayeri is of low emotional intelligence and low empathy, and she just assumes everyone is the same because she is. What a shallow reflection of human nature for an author!
Graphic: Torture, Trafficking, Xenophobia, Violence, Homophobia, Medical content, Misogyny, Injury/Injury detail, Mental illness, Physical abuse, Pregnancy, Self harm, Sexual violence, Cancer, Grief, Hate crime, Addiction, Body horror, Child abuse, Domestic abuse, Police brutality, Religious bigotry, Gaslighting, Gore, Murder, Sexual assault, Suicidal thoughts, Suicide attempt, Ableism, Antisemitism, Blood, Bullying, Chronic illness, Confinement, Cursing, Death, Excrement, Islamophobia, Schizophrenia/Psychosis , Drug use, Racism, Suicide, Vomit, War, Fire/Fire injury, Genocide, Sexism, Deportation, Kidnapping, Medical trauma, and Rape
Moderate: Colonisation, Drug abuse, Classism, Homophobia, Transphobia, and Alcohol
fjette's review
4.0
Graphic: Torture and Xenophobia
Moderate: Suicide and Mental illness
oltombom's review
5.0
This book is shocking, enraging, and excellent. In it, Nayeri, describes the almost impossible task that asylum seekers have in convincing immigration officers of the obvious truth. Nayeri shares numerous stories of asylum seekers who have been tortured and raped being told that they are lying and that their wounds are self-inflicted. They are forced to relive their trauma over and over again to suspicious officials. After all that, they are often rejected. Police interrogators in the U.S. use horrible interrogation techniques to pry false confessions from suspects, who are often minorities. Police are allowed to lie about almost everything. They wear down scared and confused people.
Dina Nayeri also tells the story of her own life. She was born in Iran and her mother converted to an evangelical, pentecostal form of Christianity. Dina’s mother, herself, and her younger brother became refugees and eventually gained access to the United States. Dina struggled to adapt to the United States, which was made harder because she is neurodivergent. Throughout her life she struggled with her belief and her desire to be believed.
This book is enlightening and convicting in many ways. I’m ashamed of the United States and European countries. We need to make our countries worthy of our lofty claims.
I listened to the audio version of this book. It was narrated excellently by Ayesha Antoine who has a wonderful British accent.
taylorthiel's review
3.0
What’s good:
The examination of asylum seekers, falsely accused prisoners, and even what causes people to believe or not believe in faiths. There was some harrowing and powerful stuff in here. The stories of how asylum seekers would go through some unimaginable things, only to be accused of lying once they get to America/UK was devastating. I also really appreciated the examination of false accusations/confessions under duress.
Loved the look at how asylum agents/cops are trying to find liars rather than trying to help. Great stuff.
What’s bad:
Anytime the author takes about herself or her family or her own belief. (We get it, you think all religious people are faking/psychotic). Literally, should not have had any memoir material at all (other than her own experience seeking asylum. That was fine.)
Also, the book was super all over the place and the stories got hard to follow. I could manage it, but everything was super weaved together.
What’s really bad?:
The authors refusal to believe her brother in law (BIL) is mentally I’ll. Her double down and defending herself in believing that BIL was faking/attention seeking/not working hard when that BIL literally kill’s himself. Because he was white and kinda affluent, that means, according to the author, he was not allowed to suffer and, in reality, that isn’t how mental illness works. That whole thread of her trying to balance the “faking” BIL with all asylum seekers as truth tellers just did not work. It took away from the gravity and seriousness of how asylum seekers are not taken seriously. Which is a crucial a important focus of this book. But it is so dampened when the author won’t take mental illness seriously because the sufferer falls into a category of people she doesn’t like. He. Literally. Killed. Himself.