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Kim Jiyoung, born 1982

Cho Nam-joo

4.21 AVERAGE

emotional informative reflective sad fast-paced
Plot or Character Driven: Character
Strong character development: Complicated
Loveable characters: Complicated
Diverse cast of characters: No
Flaws of characters a main focus: No
challenging dark reflective tense medium-paced
Plot or Character Driven: Character
Strong character development: Complicated
Loveable characters: No
Diverse cast of characters: Yes
Flaws of characters a main focus: No
challenging emotional informative reflective fast-paced
Plot or Character Driven: Character
Strong character development: No
Loveable characters: Complicated
Diverse cast of characters: Complicated
Flaws of characters a main focus: Complicated
informative inspiring fast-paced
Plot or Character Driven: Character
Strong character development: Yes
Loveable characters: Yes
Diverse cast of characters: No
Flaws of characters a main focus: No

3.5 stars
I liked the plot and message that this story conveyed, but I got lost a little bit with some of the details. I understand this is translated, however there were some pretty important details that had no build up to and was just thrown at us with no further explanations.

I’d like to place this novel into the hands of every person I have ever met, because I don’t think there’s a single individual out there who wouldn’t benefit greatly from reading it. Cho Nam-Joo makes blatant the innumerous invisible sacrifices made by women over the course of their lifetimes.
emotional
Plot or Character Driven: Character

the last chapter….. there’s no escaping 
informative reflective fast-paced
Plot or Character Driven: Character
Strong character development: Yes
Loveable characters: No
Diverse cast of characters: No
Flaws of characters a main focus: Complicated

i felt FURIOUS reading this book, and i'm happy i felt that way, because that's what the book is meant for. being a woman, kim jiyoung's experiences were so, so relatable, even being in opposite places of the world.

while it is true that the writing style is simple and straight to the point, i was sort of fascinated by it. i felt like i was actually reading someone's life without any additions or romanticising. the ending, if possible, made me even angrier because it perfectly proved the point the whole book had been making.

this is a dive into female rage, and it doesn't come only from jiyoung; it comes from her mother, her sister, her classmates throughout school, high school and college, and her work colleagues. even from the random lady of the bus. it perfectly shows that us women, regardless of time and place, have this rage built inside us.

and it shows that we should help each other out, because no one else will— just like the classmates did when they tied up the flasher and took him to the police, just like the bus lady did when she ran back to jiyoung screaming to make sure she wouldn't get assaulted, and just like kim eunsil when she used her position of power to defend her female colleagues from humiliation and harassment.

The inclusion of data from various studies in the story leaves little to no room for debate about the glaring emergency of gender inequality. All patriarchal societies expect women to bear all kinds of pain and live half-lives. Men and women, both actively and passively, propagate such a culture by constantly underplaying the harm caused. The book is a painful revelation.
emotional informative sad medium-paced