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The Perfectionist's Guide to Losing Control: A Path to Peace and Power by Katherine Morgan Schafler

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gilli_an's review

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challenging informative inspiring medium-paced

3.75

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sashafriese's review against another edition

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adventurous challenging dark emotional funny hopeful informative inspiring medium-paced

5.0

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xsleepyshadows's review

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emotional hopeful informative inspiring reflective medium-paced

5.0

I'm planning a wedding and I've had to revaluate a lot of things in my life and what really matters to me. I based this book of the title alone thinking I was going to maybe get some tips to fix some of my behavior or just letting things go and giving slack to people I care about helping me with an event I care about. (like, no one will as invested in your wedding as you...ya know), things going as planned or not as planned... You know.
I feel so superficial now thinking this, little did I know that this book will change my life. I've changed my outlook - I can't explain it but It feels like this book was made for me at this time.
I've been trying to change things about myself but I'm approaching it to like obliterated instead of learning to manage and use it to my advantage. This idea was really striking to me. Learning that joy is not conditional, and there was a segment about suicide. The suicide chapter was what I needed.

"I'll never get what I want - I'll lose what I have" was my biggest revelation. Living in this state of constant fear and depression is what has lead me to really powerful suicidal thoughts since like 2022 - I've told my partner this year about them when I started to plan. I never could put into words my dread - but this is it. It's this circle of "I'll never get what I want - I'll lose what I have" is basically my drive.

This book has changed me. Excellent read - embrace your perfectionism instead of tearing yourself to pieces.

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hgcarias4's review

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While the book was full of really interesting interviews with her therapy clients and great psychological insights into perfectionism, I guess I just lost interest bc I really don't ascribe to perfectionism anymore.

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edrickashay's review

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challenging hopeful informative inspiring lighthearted reflective slow-paced

4.0

This book is free therapy - for everyone, not just perfectionists. If you have had little to no experience with therapy or learning about mental/emotional regulation & intelligence, you will find this book invaluable.
If you have had some experience in therapy, and are looking for something just focused on the perfectionism, you might end up skipping half the book, but the first 3 chapters and last one are wonderful and I still feel like I got so much out of this book in ways of feeling seen, validated, and reminded I am enough the way I am now.

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