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All You Can Ever Know

Nicole Chung

3.97 AVERAGE

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정말 감사하시고 너무 감동이세요. As a Korean adoptee myself, I simply don’t have the words to express my love of this novel. Thank you Nicole Chung❤️
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I don’t think this is something appropriate for me to rate.  I’m interested in adoptee voices, and there’s nothing wrong with this author’s personal narrative.  I think I failed to connect because I didn’t feel like she and I had a lot in common (and obviously we would not have everything in common, but in other areas).  We are very different people, but I was happy for her in what she got out of her search and the note she ended on.

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I really wish I could give this book more stars. It’s such an important story, such important topics that society has to address. Unfortunately there are so few places where we can hear adoptions stories, and I understand it’s not fair to expect one person to write the perfect book.

The book felt really flat to me. I wish the writer had gone deeper into her relationship with her parents and their thoughts about her reaching out to her birth family, race, religion, how she started getting in touch with other adoptees, why she isn’t in touch with her half sister, etc. I wish the book had been more reflective, more critical, guiding readers deeper into this complicated questions. Instead we just dip our toes in, get small glimpses into conversations and reflections. The book was focused too much on her life trajectory, all the steps she took.

I also had a hard time reading it because of the writing, it was bland, scattered, and with strangely composed sentences that made it tiresome to read. It was long and repetitive and felt like an essay turned into a book.
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While there were definitely some insights into cross-racial adoption that were impactful and intriguing, there were also many parts of the book where I had a hard to staying focused and engaged. Hard to say how much of that was the writing versus the audiobook narrator.
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Baffled this has a high overall Goodreads rating and reviews. I mean this is in the nicest way but it is an absolute snoozefest. All You Can Ever Know should have been a five-page essay - no more was needed!

I felt like 95% of this book was filler and ultimately unnecessary to her overall story. It also bothered me she didn't really have a thesis... At the start, it seemed like she had an opinion on adoptions but that tapered off and felt really unfinished.

The bummer is that this would have been a fascinating essay and helped to explore adoptions today (versus in the past) and how they impact families but all of that is null for the above reasons.

The story of a trans-racial adoptee and her experiences growing up in a mostly white area and finding her birth family to put it simply. Being a trans-racial adoptee myself it was validating to know that a lot of the things and feelings I experienced were not completely unique to me. I don't have the option of finding my birth family but her story of finding hers and her relationship with her sister was beautiful. I was also able to relate to having a biological child and going through all the emotions of giving birth and bringing your child home as an adoptee. It's an experience to watch your baby grow and think of where you were at that point in your infancy and how it relates. I would definitely say this is a must read for adoptees.