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tacomaven's review against another edition
informative
fast-paced
4.0
Skimmed parts that didn’t apply, but made lots of notes from the parts that did apply
she_reads_'s review against another edition
adventurous
challenging
dark
emotional
hopeful
informative
inspiring
reflective
relaxing
sad
medium-paced
5.0
pandothiel's review against another edition
5.0
This book particularly appeals to me as my father was a narcissist, and I suspect some people I have been involved with to be narcs themselves.
Dr Ramani is no doubt an expert on the topic of narcissists, and this publication becomes a text book to recognise and avoid narcs. Other than that, for those unfortunate ones who, like me, have suffered at their hands, it is a useful accounting of their manipulation techniques that helps not only validate past experiences and feelings, but also heal wounds that, otherwise, would have had no explanations.
For me, reading this book through the lens of past experience, I could relate to many of the chapters, signs, and testimonies. It is easy to look from the outside and think "Why did you stay in that situation?", but it is far more difficult to view it clearly when we are so heavily involved. For me, a lot of details, comments, events I could not explain suddenly made sense. Narcs. That's who they are, that's what they do.
I also particularly liked the fact that she emphasised the fact that narcs are, after all, people with complex feelings and emotions, and not just a good old villain with an ugly face you can spot from miles away. We are drawn to them because they are human. We stay with them because they are human. And although their patterns repeat and are the same, no two narcs look or act in exact same way when up close.
It is a book many people should read. Those who have faced narcs, those who want to help victims of narcs, and those who could become victims of narcs. The world would be a better place if we stopped encouraging their behaviour and knew how to deal with them.
Dr Ramani is no doubt an expert on the topic of narcissists, and this publication becomes a text book to recognise and avoid narcs. Other than that, for those unfortunate ones who, like me, have suffered at their hands, it is a useful accounting of their manipulation techniques that helps not only validate past experiences and feelings, but also heal wounds that, otherwise, would have had no explanations.
For me, reading this book through the lens of past experience, I could relate to many of the chapters, signs, and testimonies. It is easy to look from the outside and think "Why did you stay in that situation?", but it is far more difficult to view it clearly when we are so heavily involved. For me, a lot of details, comments, events I could not explain suddenly made sense. Narcs. That's who they are, that's what they do.
I also particularly liked the fact that she emphasised the fact that narcs are, after all, people with complex feelings and emotions, and not just a good old villain with an ugly face you can spot from miles away. We are drawn to them because they are human. We stay with them because they are human. And although their patterns repeat and are the same, no two narcs look or act in exact same way when up close.
It is a book many people should read. Those who have faced narcs, those who want to help victims of narcs, and those who could become victims of narcs. The world would be a better place if we stopped encouraging their behaviour and knew how to deal with them.
mrgongjin's review against another edition
informative
inspiring
reflective
medium-paced
4.5
a very practical and thoughtful book which gave me a lot of insights of what to do while either stay or go. Be self-reflective and let go of some of the obsession of changing others. Take care of yourself all the time.
michellefleming33's review against another edition
2.0
This was a hard one to digest.
I read it on Hoopla and all the highlights I had for the book did not transfer or save and I’m deeply disappointed in that.
The main takeaway is that the narcissist will not ever change.
You can either keep bending to their will or you can leave.
I read it on Hoopla and all the highlights I had for the book did not transfer or save and I’m deeply disappointed in that.
The main takeaway is that the narcissist will not ever change.
You can either keep bending to their will or you can leave.