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marijkebambam's review against another edition
informative
inspiring
medium-paced
3.5
Not a bad book. That being said, statements in this book included that growing up hearing you're not good enough can cause reproductive problems, that heart attacks are frequently the result of negative beliefs, that we can pick up terrorist attacks and plane crashes through our first chakra, that lung problems such as cancer or asthma are often the result of unresolved grief, that breast cancer is common among women who feel guilty that they can never do enough for other people and that "perhaps if we breathed more we would eat less".
It was a bit much for me. But still, if you can read past that, a pretty nice book.
It was a bit much for me. But still, if you can read past that, a pretty nice book.
lipsandpalms's review against another edition
3.0
There's good information and advice here. Open and honest communication with your partner. Being conscious of the moment by focusing on breath and bodily sensations. Pay attention to nonverbal queues your parter sends out, even unconsciously.
My main criticism of the book is that much of the rituals or sex play comes off as disingenuous. We're told to "fake it till we feel it", to put on a "costume" for our erotic "character" in a "play". To me this doesn't seem true to self or to a continuous identity.
I'm also very dubious of the instructions regarding how to stimulate the penis. Being a proud penis owner myself, the idea of stretching or squeezing it because "it's not made of porcelain " seems to be against the earlier topics of the book about listening to your partner.
Overall it seems this good advice is wrapped in this esoteric mysticism that is self-admittedly arbitrary. If we're free to follow, modify, or wreck the rituals completely, why include them with such specificity?
As it says in an early chapter, if you turn off the critical thinking part of your brain, it will begin to make sense in a schizophrenic rambling sort of way. I'm open to trying the suggestions in the book, but I don't think I'll be sending my microcosmic orgasmic energy to Tibetan refugees anytime soon.
My main criticism of the book is that much of the rituals or sex play comes off as disingenuous. We're told to "fake it till we feel it", to put on a "costume" for our erotic "character" in a "play". To me this doesn't seem true to self or to a continuous identity.
I'm also very dubious of the instructions regarding how to stimulate the penis. Being a proud penis owner myself, the idea of stretching or squeezing it because "it's not made of porcelain " seems to be against the earlier topics of the book about listening to your partner.
Overall it seems this good advice is wrapped in this esoteric mysticism that is self-admittedly arbitrary. If we're free to follow, modify, or wreck the rituals completely, why include them with such specificity?
As it says in an early chapter, if you turn off the critical thinking part of your brain, it will begin to make sense in a schizophrenic rambling sort of way. I'm open to trying the suggestions in the book, but I don't think I'll be sending my microcosmic orgasmic energy to Tibetan refugees anytime soon.
avidavocado's review against another edition
hopeful
informative
lighthearted
reflective
medium-paced
3.75
Content Warnings
Graphic: Sexual content
lavvynder's review against another edition
4.0
Getting out of my head and into my body has been a constant struggle for me in many aspects of life. This book has helped transform my sexuality from trauma and flashback filled to having the tools to reclaim my body and sexual pleasure as my own. I grew up being shamed and feeling guilty for any sexual desires and even years after leaving mormonism I still find myself struggling to be at peace with how I experience pleasure. This book breaks down why sex can be sacred outside of any religion--god has no place in my bedroom.
The book is full of practices, breathing techniques, and new ideas for how people can enjoy their own and their partners' bodies. I have absolutely loved experiencing the practices this book has to offer as both as an individual and with my partners. I encourage everyone who struggles with sexual pleasure to pick it up and give it a go. Even if you already enjoy most of your sexual encounters, everyone could learn a thing or two from reading this.
I plan to keep this book around for a long time--while I may be healing, I still have a lot of work to do and this book has been a huge help in allowing me to find that healing.
The book is full of practices, breathing techniques, and new ideas for how people can enjoy their own and their partners' bodies. I have absolutely loved experiencing the practices this book has to offer as both as an individual and with my partners. I encourage everyone who struggles with sexual pleasure to pick it up and give it a go. Even if you already enjoy most of your sexual encounters, everyone could learn a thing or two from reading this.
I plan to keep this book around for a long time--while I may be healing, I still have a lot of work to do and this book has been a huge help in allowing me to find that healing.
morna's review against another edition
5.0
Excellent. Tantra for city girls/boys/everything elses. How to harness sexuality and use it for spiritual purposes (and also just joy) in our ordinary lives.
Very practical. Great exercises. Only been practicing with her tips a bit so far, but already see great results.
I think she goes a bit overboard with her emphasis on safer sex, but then again - that probably also depends on the setting.
Very practical. Great exercises. Only been practicing with her tips a bit so far, but already see great results.
I think she goes a bit overboard with her emphasis on safer sex, but then again - that probably also depends on the setting.
readingbutterfly's review against another edition
4.0
This was pretty good. Not your regular run of the mill sex book. It contains practical exercises and information that you can practice without feeling uncomfortable or out of place.
I totally believe in the mind body connection when it comes to enjoying sex.
I totally believe in the mind body connection when it comes to enjoying sex.
failedimitator's review against another edition
3.0
It made me think of some things differently -- for the better, I would say -- but generally, I found it was too new age-y for me.