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catofbones's review against another edition
Graphic: Homophobia, Suicidal thoughts, Suicide attempt, Misogyny, Sexual assault, Self harm, and Gaslighting
aseel_reads's review
- Plot- or character-driven? A mix
- Strong character development? It's complicated
- Loveable characters? It's complicated
- Diverse cast of characters? Yes
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
4.0
Graphic: Emotional abuse, Sexism, Homophobia, Alcohol, Drug abuse, Drug use, Suicidal thoughts, Suicide attempt, Rape, Sexual harassment, Misogyny, and Alcoholism
Minor: Gaslighting, Bullying, Panic attacks/disorders, Infidelity, Racism, Mental illness, Stalking, Hate crime, Toxic relationship, and Vomit
ashcanpete's review
- Plot- or character-driven? A mix
- Strong character development? No
- Loveable characters? No
- Diverse cast of characters? Yes
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
2.0
Graphic: Racial slurs, Racism, Panic attacks/disorders, Sexual assault, Homophobia, Rape, Suicidal thoughts, Alcohol, Cursing, Gaslighting, Sexism, Car accident, Mental illness, Suicide, Domestic abuse, Infidelity, Misogyny, Toxic friendship, Violence, Sexual harassment, and Suicide attempt
sarahjanecw's review
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? Yes
- Loveable characters? No
- Diverse cast of characters? Yes
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
3.5
Moderate: Suicide, Self harm, Mental illness, Gaslighting, Emotional abuse, Toxic relationship, Sexual assault, Sexual violence, Racial slurs, Medical trauma, Infidelity, Rape, and Sexual harassment
Minor: Death of parent
miaaa_lenaaa's review against another edition
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? Yes
- Loveable characters? Yes
- Diverse cast of characters? Yes
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
4.0
Graphic: Physical abuse, Suicide, Homophobia, Toxic relationship, Sexual assault, Suicidal thoughts, Blood, Bullying, Medical content, Domestic abuse, Gaslighting, Sexual violence, Panic attacks/disorders, Alcohol, Death, Misogyny, Outing, Pedophilia, Racism, Rape, and Sexual harassment
bpretzer's review against another edition
- Plot- or character-driven? Plot
- Strong character development? It's complicated
- Loveable characters? Yes
- Diverse cast of characters? Yes
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
4.75
Graphic: Gaslighting
Moderate: Suicide, Suicide attempt, Suicidal thoughts, and Infidelity
thereadingscorpios's review against another edition
4.0
adegoke writes about such heavy topics and it’s so so important that she does. not only is this book about the life of a woman whose fiancé is accused of assault and more, but also about said fiancé dealing with these accusations while also lying to his fiancée. they both live in a world where their entire lives are more or less constantly followed on social media.
i really appreciated the fact that adegoke gave both ola and michael a POV, since it gave such nuance to the story. the stress of a wedding was already on their minds. but this? it changes everything.
i don’t want to give too many spoilers, but wow, michael’s friends made me furious. i hate every single one of them. their text messages were filled with misogyny and it felt so real. it hurt and i could honestly see it happening.
the world of media can be such a toxic and awful place, and i’m so grateful to myself that i picked this audiobook up. if you think you can stomach it, it definitely is a must-read, especially now during women’s history month.
the only reason i didn’t give it a full five stars was because the ending left me feeling a bit unsatisfied. i would’ve loved seeing more of those characters we only met at the end. how did they, really, end up in that situation?
as a debut novel, this was a fantastic book. i can’t wait to see what yomi adegoke does next.
Graphic: Infidelity, Suicide, Gaslighting, Misogyny, Homophobia, Sexual assault, Rape, and Addiction
klb77's review
- Plot- or character-driven? Plot
- Strong character development? No
- Loveable characters? No
- Diverse cast of characters? Yes
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
0.5
Do you want to know what happens in this book? Read the synopsis and then the final 10% for the lack of resolution or accountability from every single person involved in this shit show. Nothing else happens other than one self-righteous fight and one bit of drama at an event. the ONLY bit of additional drama that occurs at the single defined event of the entire book.
If you want fanfiction of AD and Clay from Love Is Blind: here it is. The “I can fix him” and the “She’ll stand by me no matter what harm I do to her” thinking they can successfully have a marriage between them.
This book was entirely one-note and the ending wasn’t the end of anything or an ending marked by change or growth or accountability or even fucking acknowledgment of inciting events. The plot holes were jarring and entirely unforgivable and every side character was interchangeable with eachother. Petty points off for the chapter titles being huge spoilers as well.
The only compliment I can give is that it was an accurate representation of a shithead man but I already knew PLENTY about that from dropping my own last year. Beat for beat they had similar thoughts and excuses. The audiobook narrator did well wresting and differentiating all of the different one note characters and their accents. The content was truly enraging but her job was very well done.
In the Q&A between the voice actor/narrator and the author I found the jokes about cancelling *them* over tiny things to be wildly tone deaf. Do you truly think a self deprecating joke about your own work is equivalent to date rape/kidnapping/assault/ coercion/etc etc etc etc listed in your own fucking book? Now who’s trivializing things? The lack of proper content warnings is abhorrent considering the thing I’ve chosen to spoiler over below.
Maybe it’s cold but the only thing I was rooting for was
Also why the fuck did he wake up with a feeding tube. That makes no sense. the science in this book sucked shit too but now I truly am being petty.
Graphic: Car accident, Drug use, Emotional abuse, Toxic relationship, Alcoholism, Misogyny, Sexual content, Stalking, Gaslighting, Self harm, Injury/Injury detail, Blood, Cursing, Addiction, Physical abuse, Sexism, Violence, Classism, Medical content, Infidelity, Suicidal thoughts, Adult/minor relationship, Alcohol, Domestic abuse, Drug abuse, Suicide, Outing, Sexual violence, Sexual assault, Sexual harassment, and Suicide attempt
Moderate: Biphobia
Minor: Vomit and Kidnapping
me_alley's review against another edition
- Plot- or character-driven? A mix
- Strong character development? Yes
- Loveable characters? Yes
- Diverse cast of characters? No
- Flaws of characters a main focus? It's complicated
5.0
People (mostly men) are accused every single day of assault and impropriety, some of these accusations are valid, or not. There are examples in the story of both valid accusations and false accusations. Some valid accusations that created accountability and some that didn’t. The story has other examples of accusations that — while false — are rooted in another harm that has been done to a person. It examines how technology and the Internet have the power to create trauma and accountability.
We kind of want it to be one of the other, don’t we?
We either want to bemoan cancel culture and immediately assume the accusations are false… Or we want to “believe women” and immediately assume the accusations are true.
This is why the reviews of this book are mixed. It’s hard to come to terms with.
Then again, that’s what makes a great story. That’s what makes us all more empathetic. To allow us to step into the shoes of someone with a different life experience than we have. That’s why readers of fiction become more empathetic people. Because they step into the shoes of someone with different life experiences. Allows us to examine the window through which we see the world, and consider that others are looking out of a different window.
Graphic: Bullying, Sexism, and Suicide
Moderate: Misogyny, Homophobia, Gaslighting, Outing, Rape, Sexual assault, Sexual violence, Pedophilia, and Infidelity
nanirump's review against another edition
- Plot- or character-driven? A mix
- Strong character development? Yes
- Loveable characters? No
- Diverse cast of characters? No
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
3.0
Moderate: Rape, Sexism, Infidelity, Physical abuse, Racial slurs, Racism, Toxic relationship, Sexual assault, Sexual harassment, Cultural appropriation, Death, Domestic abuse, Homophobia, Suicide, Gaslighting, Emotional abuse, and Drug use