Reviews

Be Honest--You're Not That Into Him Either: Raise Your Standards and Reach for the Love You Deserve by Ian Kerner, Amy Sohn

hopecaldwell's review against another edition

2.0

Got this for Megan's stocking and skimmed through it. not a lot of substance there...

cnbe's review against another edition

funny inspiring reflective fast-paced

3.0

jennystout21's review against another edition

2.0

Despite the fact that Ian Kerner has written some excellent sex advice books ("She Comes First"), his guide to dating is pretty useless. It boils down to: don't date people you don't like. Really?? Also, written in 2005, the book is hilariously dated with references to "Netflix DVDs" and "Eminem CDs". I appreciate Kerner's attempt to clapback at "He's Just Not That Into You", which is also a worthless shit dating guide, but Kerner doesn't exactly bring any fresh ideas to the table.

sarahbethbrown's review against another edition

2.0

ugh oh god, i really did read this book, though by the end, i was down to about 10 words a page. i, um, do not recommend it, though it was good fodder for conversation. Also, i am currently doing 100% of the things the book told me not to. Am not raising my standards, am not reaching for the love i deserve, am mostly hoping for the best.

minerva1221's review against another edition

4.0

Any guy who writes a book titled, "She Comes First," must know what he's talking about, and that appears to be the case here. It's kind of sad to admit that a lot of what Kerner discusses in this book is spot on. We have lowered our standards. We do tend to settle for the "in the meantime," rather than be alone.

Some takeaway quotes:
- What is the point of dating someone if he doesn't make you feel great?
- What is the point of casual sex if the sex part isn't any good?
- Dating "in the meantime" is wasted time. Someday is right now. Life is too precious to get stuck in an endless cycle of meantimers who will never, ever wind up with you in the here and now.

rmesquirrel's review against another edition

3.0

It was all right... did not really tell you anything new.

tawnsolo's review against another edition

5.0

Interesting perspective.

glitterbomb47's review against another edition

3.0

3.5 rounded up. This book is 15 years old and it shows. The references are dated and there's some patronizing "we all know women are smarter than men" crap. That said, I found some parts enlightening and encouraging. The key takeaway is to be honest with yourself about what you're doing and why.

hummusluvr69's review against another edition

5.0

This was it. This was the last book I read before I ditched men and started dating women in earnest.

charliemalonie's review against another edition

funny inspiring reflective fast-paced

3.0

This book is clearly dated, but I loved the writing. I really want Ian to come out with a 2022 perspective on the same conversation. Anyway, the tough love was exactly what I needed.