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Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make and Keep Friends as an Adult
Marisa G. Franco
4.09 AVERAGE
797 reviews for:
Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make and Keep Friends as an Adult
Marisa G. Franco
4.09 AVERAGE
Made me look inward :/ Still think about her advice on the daily.
challenging
emotional
informative
reflective
This more of a self-help reflection book than a "how-to". The author explains how our past relationships help us develop different attachment styles and how different traits of each style can manifest in our current relationships. She encourages us to identify different behaviors and then gives suggested instructions on how to change our actions to lean towards more secure attachment styles. There are step-by-step list at the end of each section to follow through with the "how" part of the title but they are very general. Overall, I think the book was worth the listen. I learned a lot about myself and got to reflect on different avoidant and anxious attachment behaviors that I have made in the past. It also reminded me that most people are never thinking about you as much as you think they are and everyone is more preoccupied with themselves, so we should all cut each other some slack.
medium-paced
hopeful
informative
inspiring
reflective
medium-paced
Editing this review and ranking because when I wrote it I had forgotten all of the Zionist references in it, references to bombing and completely unwarranted islamophobic remarks. This book took me so long to read, by the time I finished nothing was as fresh in my mind. Findings on friendship were good and actionable but source material was very questionable specially as examples were mostly very New York (and Israeli??) centred which the author acknowledges that it’s mostly North American centred but I find it hard to believe that for an author of color, there werent any verifiable or good sources around friendships in other cultures. Leaving my original review below:
Picked this up for a book club and was so happy that I did! This book was very wholesome, warm and invoked a lot of emotions for me including thinking about how much I truly love my friends and making a commitment to myself to be a better friend, to be more present, to be less flaky. As someone who loves research and data around everything, some of what was shared in this book was so reassuring, for example, learning that people actually like you more than you think they do has completely changed my life and has encouraged me to be more confident about how I approach relationships and friendships. And if anything as well, it has encouraged me to be more vocal about how much I love my friends, about how I express affection and generosity with friends, and even how to handle anger with friends (the whole anger of hope and anger of despair helped me look at past conflicts with friends on a whole new light!). I wish I had read this when I first moved to Ottawa and didn’t know anybody, but overall so happy I got to read it in this life - and if you’re thinking about reading this and have ever felt insecure (as I have) about yourself around friendships, I can’t urge you to read more about friednship.
Picked this up for a book club and was so happy that I did! This book was very wholesome, warm and invoked a lot of emotions for me including thinking about how much I truly love my friends and making a commitment to myself to be a better friend, to be more present, to be less flaky. As someone who loves research and data around everything, some of what was shared in this book was so reassuring, for example, learning that people actually like you more than you think they do has completely changed my life and has encouraged me to be more confident about how I approach relationships and friendships. And if anything as well, it has encouraged me to be more vocal about how much I love my friends, about how I express affection and generosity with friends, and even how to handle anger with friends (the whole anger of hope and anger of despair helped me look at past conflicts with friends on a whole new light!). I wish I had read this when I first moved to Ottawa and didn’t know anybody, but overall so happy I got to read it in this life - and if you’re thinking about reading this and have ever felt insecure (as I have) about yourself around friendships, I can’t urge you to read more about friednship.
emotional
informative
inspiring
reflective
medium-paced
This was a very informative book that affirmed a lot of what I already know (that friendship is just as important as romantic love) as well as giving me a richer understanding (what makes and breaks friendships). I think the skills in this book will help me to form more really good friends and maintain the friendships I have!
challenging
informative
inspiring
reflective
medium-paced
informative
medium-paced
Overall quite interesting and practical, although it did throw a few too many studies at you. Most of all, I liked thinking about my friendships and about adjustments I can make to deepen my relationships.
informative
reflective
medium-paced