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Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make and Keep Friends as an Adult
Marisa G. Franco
4.09 AVERAGE
808 reviews for:
Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make and Keep Friends as an Adult
Marisa G. Franco
4.09 AVERAGE
Super insightful read! It truly made me sit back and think about my friendship / attachment style v. some of my friends, and what I can do more / be better at to have more fulfilling friendships. I was really surprised with how much I enjoyed this book. It was a great balance of theory and research with real-world examples, and I appreciated the author’s admission upfront that she realizes the examples aren’t exactly a diverse range. For some reason, that helped me to contextualize the book a bit more.
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I wasn’t sure how to rate this one, 3.5 rounded up I suppose. This book is packed full of good information, well researched and presented. This is why I gave it 4 stars. However, for me it just dragged. I probably would have gotten more from it if it were about half the length, with more condensed info and less anecdotes. But I don’t want to drop the star rating, as I do think it’s a well constructed book with helpful advice and research on a key area of life to which too little attention is paid.
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It can be hard to make friends as an adult. I’ve lamented this problem with my sisters, husband, and extended family, and it’s become clear that I’m not the only one who feels this way. Psychologist and friendship expert Marisa Franco addresses why it’s so difficult in her new book, Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make and Keep Friends as an Adult.
This is the friendship handbook every adult needs. It feels particularly relevant now, in an era when social isolation is more common than ever, individualism is highly valued, and platonic relationships are frequently swept to the side in favor of other priorities. Franco makes an excellent case for why it’s important to put more effort into making and keeping friendships.
This book is divided into two sections: “Looking Back: How We’ve Become the Friends We Are,” which examines behavior in friendships through the lens of attachment theory; and “Looking Forward: Practices to Make and Keep Friends,” which offers plenty of research-based, practical advice for platonic relationships. There’s a chapter on conflict management that ought to be required reading for everyone. Franco’s writing is peppered with plenty of relatable anecdotes that support her assertions.
This is not just a book for people who have a hard time making friends (though for those of us who do, there is plenty of help here—in fact, there is literally a chart entitled “How to Make a Friend”). It will be helpful for anyone looking to deepen and strengthen their relationships. I highlighted way too many lines in my digital review copy, and I’m planning to go to the bookstore this weekend to buy a physical copy that I can reference later. I highly recommend this book.
Many thanks to NetGalley and Penguin Group for the DRC!
This is the friendship handbook every adult needs. It feels particularly relevant now, in an era when social isolation is more common than ever, individualism is highly valued, and platonic relationships are frequently swept to the side in favor of other priorities. Franco makes an excellent case for why it’s important to put more effort into making and keeping friendships.
This book is divided into two sections: “Looking Back: How We’ve Become the Friends We Are,” which examines behavior in friendships through the lens of attachment theory; and “Looking Forward: Practices to Make and Keep Friends,” which offers plenty of research-based, practical advice for platonic relationships. There’s a chapter on conflict management that ought to be required reading for everyone. Franco’s writing is peppered with plenty of relatable anecdotes that support her assertions.
This is not just a book for people who have a hard time making friends (though for those of us who do, there is plenty of help here—in fact, there is literally a chart entitled “How to Make a Friend”). It will be helpful for anyone looking to deepen and strengthen their relationships. I highlighted way too many lines in my digital review copy, and I’m planning to go to the bookstore this weekend to buy a physical copy that I can reference later. I highly recommend this book.
Many thanks to NetGalley and Penguin Group for the DRC!
I really liked this and would recommend it to a lot of people. Most of it is somewhat common knowledge but it's always helpful to have it in one place. It's reassuring to know that people generally do like each other and think pretty favorably toward one another.
However on the flip side, in later chapters the author also states that when listing friends, a lot of YOUR friends wouldn't consider you THEIR friend. That's a little disheartening.
So- part of this book is pretty hopeful and part is a little depressing.
It's important not to give up hope of finding/ making/ keeping friends at any age.
However on the flip side, in later chapters the author also states that when listing friends, a lot of YOUR friends wouldn't consider you THEIR friend. That's a little disheartening.
So- part of this book is pretty hopeful and part is a little depressing.
It's important not to give up hope of finding/ making/ keeping friends at any age.
The utility of the book for me petered out after the discussion on attachment styles and the importance of initiative in maintains friendships. I also felt like the book was not as data-driven as I had hoped - the author leaned too much into anecdotal stories for my taste.
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