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ebonyutley's review against another edition
2.0
There was so much suspect about Insatiable Wives. First, it was wildly annoying that the research was uncited. Ley provided authors’ names, but there were too few proper footnotes for his “facts” or “history.” There was no point in taking notes since I couldn’t verify pretty much anything he said. Second, despite a handful of claims that this text is not premised on the claims of evolutionary psychology, the book reads a lot like an advocate for evolutionary psychology—an entire chapter on animals, huge sections on the competitive nature of sperm, rationales for sexual desires based on evolution rather than personal choice or social influence, an overabundance of references to David Buss. Third, the whole hot wife phenomenon seems farfetched. I don’t know if this I because I’m black and black slaves were forced to share their wives with white masters, but I don’t know any black men that desire to be a cuckhold. None. And since all his samples were white, I can’t disprove my theory. Fifth, since the book is mostly a man speaking to men about what it means to be a man and since no wives got to speak for themselves by themselves (a handful are quoted in convo with their husbands), I finished Insatiable Wives knowing very little about how the hotwives really feel about sleeping with multiple men with their husbands’ permission. Granted, I am certain the phenomenon exists. I am also certain that a husband watching his wife be pleasured by other men can be a turnon for both the husband and the wife, I just wish I could have read about it unfiltered via the lens of a rather awkward psychologist who randomly quoted his wife and friends and admitted to including his picture in his Craiglist ads for subjects. I also didn’t like how he described the wives he did meet. It sounded so objectifying the way he mentioned their breasts or other beauteous assets. It made me uncomfortable. This guy sounds like a creep who stumbled upon something sexy and got a book contract to write about it even though he’s clearly not the most qualified.
That said, I learned a lot about and I have new respect for people who choose nonmonogamy. It’s not for everyone. I really enjoyed reading about the women throughout history who got it in on their own terms with some of the great minds of our time. Those historical and literary chapters made me wish he had spent more time with contemporary women. I was also pleased that Ley argued for the myth of sexual addiction and urged society not to use mental disorder labels as the moral police for sexual behaviors the masses disapprove of.
That said, I learned a lot about and I have new respect for people who choose nonmonogamy. It’s not for everyone. I really enjoyed reading about the women throughout history who got it in on their own terms with some of the great minds of our time. Those historical and literary chapters made me wish he had spent more time with contemporary women. I was also pleased that Ley argued for the myth of sexual addiction and urged society not to use mental disorder labels as the moral police for sexual behaviors the masses disapprove of.
julestx's review against another edition
informative
medium-paced
5.0
Dr. Ley presents fascinating stories of the people he interviewed who explore the sexual practice of hotwifing and cuckolding. I enjoyed learning from their perspectives and Ley’s research. Rose Caraway’s narration was fantastic as always!
The title of the book doesn’t really represent the book very well. It’s not really about women who “stray” but about the dynamics of heterosexual couples who participate in these particular practices within consensual non-monogamy.
The title of the book doesn’t really represent the book very well. It’s not really about women who “stray” but about the dynamics of heterosexual couples who participate in these particular practices within consensual non-monogamy.
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