Reviews tagging 'Death of parent'

Just Ignore Him by Alan Davies

21 reviews

jaslouis's review against another edition

emotional reflective sad medium-paced

4.0

I wasn’t sure what to expect but Davies is an excellent writer. He writes with great detail and beauty. I found sometimes it jumped around quite a lot so it made it difficult to follow the timeline but that did not affect the overall message. A brave and raw book.

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Death of parent, Incest, Sexual assault, Child abuse, Homophobia, Adult/minor relationship, Domestic abuse, and Physical abuse

vicf99's review against another edition

dark emotional sad medium-paced

5.0

Absolutely heartbreaking. Listening to Alan narrate this himself was so devastating that I had to listen to the whole 8.5 hours in one sitting. This book felt a lot like some form of self-therapy and there are many questions posed throughout the book for which he has no answer. This is definitely a book which will stick with me for a while.

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Sexual assault, Death of parent, and Child abuse

Minor: Homophobia

rachel26's review against another edition

challenging dark emotional funny inspiring reflective sad slow-paced

5.0

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Death of parent, Physical abuse, Sexual assault, Adult/minor relationship, Cancer, Child abuse, Emotional abuse, Grief, and Pedophilia

musicboxmemories's review against another edition

dark emotional funny hopeful inspiring reflective sad medium-paced

5.0

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Child abuse and Death of parent

emily_lane's review against another edition

dark emotional funny sad medium-paced

4.0

I have a tendency to pick up memiors because I enjoy them, without scoping out the blurb so all I knew when downloading this was it was the funny, charming, clever Alan Davis.

This was a very hard listen, well written, with moments of whimsy amongst the traumatic recollections. It encompasses why you should always, always listen to victims.

Would recommend anyone who's a fan of a memior, who has space to listen to hard topics, or anyone who enjoys Davis' comedy.

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Death of parent, Sexual assault, and Child abuse

Moderate: Bullying

watermelleon's review against another edition

challenging informative inspiring reflective sad medium-paced

5.0

Challenging, emotional, dark, incredible. 

Warning: this is not an easy read. There were times I had to pause, and take a breath, or contemplate what was being said. It is very triggering for many reasons, quite graphic in detail, and for this reason I imagine is very difficult for a lot of readers. 

One thing I did not expect from this read was how nuanced it would be written. This is not a sob story where someone is feeling forced to sell their journey as trauma porn for others to feel something over. This is a delicate, intelligent, and well thought out commentary on the society we live in, toxic masculinity, the fickle nature of sexuality, the social and physical effects of childhood trauma, the attraction of dangerous volunteers to risky roles, the court system, the police, feminism, and generational trauma (to name just a few!) 

At one point, Alan touched upon a particularly sore spot for me that I was not expecting to appear at all. But his conversational voice and facts presented reminded me the reader that survivors of trauma exist everywhere in so many forms and we all have learned lessons that have value when we are ready to reach out and discuss it with others. 

I'm so glad to have picked the audio book version, which added another level of expertly guided feelings by Alan. He is a fantastic voice, and had me crying on many many bus journeys and walks.

An incredible last line that will stick with me for a long time as well. I wish for many of my friends and family members to read this.

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Sexual content, Sexual violence, Incest, Emotional abuse, Domestic abuse, Death of parent, Child abuse, Cancer, Terminal illness, Adult/minor relationship, Pedophilia, Misogyny, Mental illness, Medical trauma, Grief, Bullying, and Abandonment

Many people were shocked to hear that this is about Alan's experiences of Childhood sexual abuse by his father, not sure if it is in the marketing but had a few people mention they thought it was just about emotional abuse! The sexual abuse is very detailed and a big part of the book.

radfordmanor's review against another edition

challenging dark emotional funny reflective sad medium-paced

4.75

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Cancer, Misogyny, Adult/minor relationship, Child abuse, Gaslighting, Terminal illness, Physical abuse, Sexual assault, Incest, Emotional abuse, Bullying, Chronic illness, Death of parent, Death, Trafficking, Excrement, Grief, Homophobia, Sexism, Sexual violence, and Pedophilia

streetsmcrts's review against another edition

dark emotional reflective sad medium-paced

4.5

A heartbreaking memoir on reconciling with traumatic and abusive past, but beautifully written that it made me teared up a couple of times. I had to pause reading this book for a lot of times because of the book's heavy themes that somehow resonate with my relationship with my grandmother. Not gonna lie, this perhaps is one of my favourite memoirs that I've written. I love Alan Davies— can't wait to read more of his future works!

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Child abuse, Sexual assault, Death of parent, and Pedophilia

Moderate: Homophobia

bethnash's review against another edition

dark reflective sad medium-paced

4.5

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Content Warnings

Moderate: Adult/minor relationship, Cancer, Child abuse, Terminal illness, Bullying, Mental illness, Misogyny, Pedophilia, Physical abuse, Sexual assault, Sexual violence, Cursing, Death of parent, Dementia, Emotional abuse, Grief, and Homophobia

havelock's review against another edition

emotional sad medium-paced

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Child abuse, Sexual violence, and Death of parent