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bupdaddy's review
3.0
Ten essays of varying value. One that stands out is written by an Aspie woman/Star Wars geek.
kaqueershi's review
2.0
liked it towards the start but the book quickly became obsessed with trying to pin AS girls into boxes that I feel might be more damaging than helpful. Romantic feelings are expected. Sexual attraction is expected but only if it's heterosexual. These are harmful ideas. I skimmed through the second half of the book.
ccaterer's review
5.0
Wonderful, desperately needed resource for parents of girls on the spectrum. Although it was written a few years ago, the information is still useful and current. Includes very interesting and insightful essays by a few adult women with ASD about transitioning to adulthood. Not a long book, but invaluable.
peterpanic's review
1.0
This book seemed like a guide on how to mask neurodivergence. Very disappointing. I didn't even bother reading the entire book.
dmbarnham's review
3.0
Mixed feelings over this.
Over all I am not that impressed. I am not entirely sure why.
I can't really comment on the early chapters, I forget what they were about.
The big positive and made the entire book worthwhile?
Aspie Do's and Don'ts: Dating, Relationships, and Marriage. The writer of this chapter was awesome and is someone I would in all probability love hanging out with. A rational perspective and writes from various positions. She truly sees with an AS eye and is able to communicate and interrupt with a higher level of intelligence.
The Big Negative that annoyed the crap out of me?
Girl to Girl: Advice on Friendship, Bullying, and Fitting In. I hated this chapter SO much, probably a combination of reasons, luckily some of this shit was counted by other peoples chapters. I think the biggest issue is it is written by an NT who is focused on making AS people fit into an NT world ... this will NEVER work and should be ignored. The best way to know what not to do is to observe, that is what I did, of course I messed up and I received a hell of a lot of flog, but my intelligence allowed me to comprehend what to and not to do to get by. Impressing the top hats should be no ones goal ... another issue is this is written for American schools and is assumed that it is a a natural situation, it is not, there are common factors in all basic nastiness, but the reality is culture and attitude plays a huge part, making much of this trip pointless to the rest of the world.
Other chapters were pretty much neutral, maybe some positive and negative bias. Over-all ... we are outselves and only a few basic rules can help us. The number one rule I would state (and probably my only true rule) is to watch and observe others, it provides you with what they are like, time is another factor, people can't be fake all the time, eventually some a-hole pretending to be someone else will slip up. Don't hurry and don't try too hard. It always ends in disaster.
Over all I am not that impressed. I am not entirely sure why.
I can't really comment on the early chapters, I forget what they were about.
The big positive and made the entire book worthwhile?
Aspie Do's and Don'ts: Dating, Relationships, and Marriage. The writer of this chapter was awesome and is someone I would in all probability love hanging out with. A rational perspective and writes from various positions. She truly sees with an AS eye and is able to communicate and interrupt with a higher level of intelligence.
The Big Negative that annoyed the crap out of me?
Girl to Girl: Advice on Friendship, Bullying, and Fitting In. I hated this chapter SO much, probably a combination of reasons, luckily some of this shit was counted by other peoples chapters. I think the biggest issue is it is written by an NT who is focused on making AS people fit into an NT world ... this will NEVER work and should be ignored. The best way to know what not to do is to observe, that is what I did, of course I messed up and I received a hell of a lot of flog, but my intelligence allowed me to comprehend what to and not to do to get by. Impressing the top hats should be no ones goal ... another issue is this is written for American schools and is assumed that it is a a natural situation, it is not, there are common factors in all basic nastiness, but the reality is culture and attitude plays a huge part, making much of this trip pointless to the rest of the world.
Other chapters were pretty much neutral, maybe some positive and negative bias. Over-all ... we are outselves and only a few basic rules can help us. The number one rule I would state (and probably my only true rule) is to watch and observe others, it provides you with what they are like, time is another factor, people can't be fake all the time, eventually some a-hole pretending to be someone else will slip up. Don't hurry and don't try too hard. It always ends in disaster.
ninette's review
1.0
Seriously?! I mean ... SERIOUSLY!?! Okay, lets calm down and see how I can make this rage coherent.
Firstly, guess who is woefully underrepresented in this volume? Exactly. Actual girls with Asperger's. What do you get instead? A bunch of people that are more or less "experts" at something or other that is supposedly relevant to the discussion. These "experts" dish out lots of not so helpful and quite often rather harmful advise - not to actual girls with Asperger's, mind you, but to the ever popular primary caregivers and teachers. And as an extra bonus most of them do this the most insulting and condescending way possible. Contemplating the harm that could be done if someone actually followed some of that god-awful advise ... the road to hell is paved with good intentions. Let's leave it at that. There are really only two notable exceptions one might want to check out (before doing the appropriate thing to do with something like this ...). Those are the articles by Tony Attwood and Jennifer McIlwee Myers.
Firstly, guess who is woefully underrepresented in this volume? Exactly. Actual girls with Asperger's. What do you get instead? A bunch of people that are more or less "experts" at something or other that is supposedly relevant to the discussion. These "experts" dish out lots of not so helpful and quite often rather harmful advise - not to actual girls with Asperger's, mind you, but to the ever popular primary caregivers and teachers. And as an extra bonus most of them do this the most insulting and condescending way possible. Contemplating the harm that could be done if someone actually followed some of that god-awful advise ... the road to hell is paved with good intentions. Let's leave it at that. There are really only two notable exceptions one might want to check out (before doing the appropriate thing to do with something like this ...). Those are the articles by Tony Attwood and Jennifer McIlwee Myers.
rey_therese07's review
3.0
3.5 Stars: I don't know how to rate/review non fiction since you can't exactly rate fact. All I can say is that while some parts weren't that interesting, there were others that I learned a lot from. As a girl with Asperger's syndrome myself, I can relate to a lot of the content in this book and I hope other women with AS can as well.